Hi, new poster here!
I've been planning my March 2013 wedding for 6 months. My best friend, who is my maid of honor I have 3 in my entourage total recently got engaged too, and is having her wedding a month after mine.
She is having a small 20 people wedding at a courthouse, followed by a 100 guest reception. Since the ceremony will be so small, she's asked me to be her maid of honor and then later informed me I will be her only attendant.
I am a little stressed out at trying to fulfill my duties as her maid of honor, but that's not the problem. She wants an allout bridal shower 30 and a big bachelorette party, including 10 girls, fancy dinner, and clubs. I am a bride on a serious budget and I simply cannot afford to host one party on my own, let alone two. My own bachelorette party is going to be a simple dinner and go kart racing. Anyway all of these expenses will fall right around my wedding day or right after. I wish her wedding would be six months later so I could afford everything, but obviously I wouldn't ask her to move it. She has suggested a cobachelorette party but I don't wantt to ask MY other bridesmaids to pay for parties that are so extravagant and not my style.
What can I do? Any advice would be really helpful. I know I need to talk to her, but I don't know where to start. I don't want to be rude or selfish.