My Fi's dad is putting a lot of money in our wedding, so we had agreed that a part of the guest list was in his hands. He could invite who he wanted. Little did we expect to see a certain name on the guest list, we both really do NOT want on our day.
When we first met, my Fi was dating another woman. He left her for me and it wasn't pretty. Thing is, his stepmother's still friends with his ex and has decided to invite her. This is the woman who kept texting me that I was a filthy *****. Who kept showing up on his doorstep and end up slapping him. Who had started an entire slander campaign against us. It almost brought us down and gave me lots of evenings where I would just sit down and cry. Still I can understand her, if I were in her place.. However, understanding isn't the same thing as, we'd love to have her on the most special day of our life. We do not want this woman on our guest list. Chances are very small that she'll actually show up but it's just a matter of principle.
Me and my Fi refuse to send her an invitation but his stepmother keeps on telling us that it's a matter of principle for her as well. She's her best friend who also went through a hard time back then and she doesn't want to let her friend think that she's picking sides. She hopes that this way the differences can be mended but I'm afraid she's being too naive. I don't think his ex will ever forgive us nor do I think that an invite to our wedding will be a great way to start...
How do I let my future stepmother-in-law see this? We already sat down with her. His father won't help us, he'd give everything to that woman. And his mother and her... let's just say that's another thing to worry about...