Much needed advice...
So I have one maid of honor and five bridesmaids, along with my mother, who are planning my shower. To put it in the nicest way possible, my MOH is by no means pulling her weight.
I know nothing about the shower as all the details are going to be a surprise for me, so I was really counting on my MOH rallying the girls and really being the head of it all, as it was her decision to have it as a surprise for me.
From what my mom is saying, as well as gripes from the other BM, my MOH is really blowing it. One of my BM sent her $200 to put as a down payment for the shower venue, which she only used $100 of as the down payment. Then when that bridesmaid asked what she did with the $200 she said "what $200"? She then responded "oh the $200 you gave me a while ago" and proceeded to not give exact details as to where it went.
From what I'm hearing, all of the girls have bought numerous things for the shower, and even things MOH said she would buy she then asked for the other BM to buy them.
At what point do I step in? When I talk to her she says everything is going wonderfully and she has everythign under control ... stating "you know me eveyrthing will be perfect!!" However, knowing all the behind the scenes issues I know its not truly her making it perfect.
What do I do? Might sound awful, but I do not want her to get the credit for the shower when I know my other BM have stepped up WAY more than she has wanting the best for me. I cannot in my right mind praise her for a job well done (which it will be but not because of her).
Do I let it go or speak up??