Hi ladies, I don't post much but I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I will prepare you now that this is going to be a long post.
So to give you all the short version of this story. I have been with my FH for 7 years now, when I first met him he did have a relationship with his mother. He comes from divorced parents he was 13 when this happened. We would make a point of seeing his mother every other week etc. About a year into my FH and my relationship his mother suggested I was a gold digger. We were looking at buying a townhouse together, his mom was giving him money for a down payment. This was a catalist to bigger issues of his mom lieing to him through out his childhood about his father.
His Dad is a great man! It took 10 years for my FH to see this. It took so long because the divorce and his mothers brain washing. 6 years ago is when my FH and his father finally reunited (SO HAPPY). My FH saw alot of government documents regarding the divorce and the lies that were told to him. But this has inturn caused the biggest rift in my FH's mothers family!
My FH has zero contact with that side of the family. His Mother isn't invited to our wedding which is in August this year. This is totally 100% his choosing. I have made it very clear to him to do what he thinks is best for him. No negative people in our lives.
We also made a point of inviting his 2 aunts and cousins on his mothers side, but they have refused to come because we didn't extend an invite to his mother. And according to them it would be like keeping a secret!
I feel as though there should be something I should be doing? But I also have to go about it tactfully because I am not willing to ruin my relationship with my FH. I am quite positive that she knows at this point that we are getting married. my FH's decription of his mom & her sisters is they live on the same brain. He is her only child... It's hard for me to sit back & let it be!
Like I said this is the short version. But I was just wanting to hear others opinions on all of this. There has been few attempts made by my FH's mother to mend all of this. Is this beyond fixing? I come from divorced parents, but my situation I was very young and have attempted to mend things with my father. With very little luck!
My mother did the opposite of FH's mother. My mom encouraged us to have a relationship with my father.
Thanks for your input and help! More in the begining with all of this, I would tell my FH how important it was to maintain a realtionship with his Mother's side of the family. But it has slowly faded because I feel like I'm wasting my breath!
PLEASE HELP!