Dear Prudie,
My brother and sister-in-law have been married for two years but have yet to consummate their marriage. Our family has gathered through tidbits of information that there are several issues. Among them: They were both virgins when they married in their early 20s. She has no sex drive and severe anxiety about how painful intercourse might be. He spent the first six months of the marriage in extreme frustration but now seems to believe that things will just work themselves out. Neither expresses a need for help. They do talk about having children soon, which is awkward to hear. The men in my family have tried to give him advice on how to alleviate her fear and ignite her desire, but he either doesn't get it or it just isn't working. She is also fixated on male celebrities and talks about them like she should be talking about her husband. I love her dearly, and we want to intervene somehow to help them. What should we do?