My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding. I've always wanted a smaller wedding, but he wants a big wedding. He worked at a bar for 15 years and has had the same group of friends outside of there for 20+ years. Right now our guest list is at 350 (all his friends and my big family) which I am not cool with. I've tried reasoning with him but he pleads with me every time that I can have whatever I want when it comes to the wedding as long as I let him invite whoever he wants. Most of the people, whatever, I'll get over it, but there's about 30 people on that list I've either never met, and he only wants to invite them because they were bar patrons of his 5-10 years ago, and there's a big chunk of his ex's family on the list. She's a horrible person (obviously not invited) but he's known her family all his life and wants to invite a bunch of them (who dont even like me). So how do I get him to see that those 30 people shouldn't be on there? I mean, I'm still close with family members of my ex's, but I'm not inviting any of them. Am I being unreasonable? Not to mention, cutting 30 people would ovbiously be cheaper for us in the long run.