Hello ladies - I know I can turn to you for some honest answers, I need to know if I should act on my gut feeling, or let this slide by.... (I'll try my hardest to keep it as short as posible!)
As I believe you know, my (now) FMIL has called me a crybaby (when my FI left for football for an indefinite period) and beyond that has always just been a little off. She's told us both that we're not in love, that it's only lust and that we are WAY too young to get married (we're 24/23, 25/24 on the wedding day). I somewhat understand the age thing, but we've been together 3 years - we've grown and we know this is what WE want. Well, last weekend (before Easter) she called me and we talked for about an hour about everything, WR things, school, jobs, family, etc. and she seemed pretty good. Still telling me finances would be hard once we got married and things of that nature - but seemingly more willing to accept that we were going to get married. Well, FI proposed on Friday - and she knew he was doing it that day (he told her Thursday night) and since the proposal she has gone CRAZY. She told me 'whoop dee doo' when I told her I was so happy and excited about our engagement. (!!?!?!?! WHAT?!?!?) Which of course, threw me backwards - I know she can be a sarcastic woman, but in my head that just wreaks of bad manners and just something you shouldn't say to anyone with that news. (am I crazy to think that?)
She called FI Friday night and they talked for about an hour outside and she basically told him that I had come inbetween the two of them, that I was being deceitful, that he had changed, etc. After their convo, she texted me and said 'thanks for ruining me and my sons relationship' WHA!?!????!
We let her cool off Saturday and he called again Sunday. She then continued in the same path, saying that I'm pushing them away from each other, that I pushed him into marrying me and threatened to cut him off her car insurance and their family cell plan (the only two bills she pays of his). She has essentially attacked my character, and I feel completely attacked by these things she's saying about me. FI doesn't actually believe her or anything (he's defended me, which upset her even more).
Sorry - so much back story, and there is even more really. But, would you e-mail her with 'your side', 'your view' of the situation - defend yourself (in a calm manner) and say the things you need to say - or would you completely leave her alone? I say e-mail because I know I would be calmer and be able to get everything out - instead of potentially getting screamed at like FI did. FI has told me not to worry about it - that he always thought she would go crazy when he didn't move back in with her and got engaged - but also told me he didn't care one way or the other if I did e-mail her.
Sooo.. what would you do? (sorry it got super long, but I look forward to what you have to say!)
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