I'm going back and forth with whether I should ask my cousin to be a BM or not. Obv I love my cousin so this is why it's such a hard decision. I already have 6 girls. My cousin is 4 years younger than me and lives 4 hours away. I wouldn't say she is autistic but she is delayed with her judgment, on like a 7th grade reading level (she's 26) and not very independent. I feel her being a BM might be a difficult task for her and being that she is 4 hours away she would not be able to get the dresses with the rest of my girls. Ultimately my aunt needs to be involved but my aunt just went through a horrible divorce, lost her home and has no money so I feel like to put a burden of now having to buy my cousins dress on her is wrong. I asked my aunt what I should do and my aunt said do what I want my cousin wouldn't care either way- wouldn't be offended if I didn't ask her but prob would not be super excited either. I just feel like I shouldn't not ask her just bc of the kind of person she is- how can I discriminate like that? On the flipside, I don't know if it's going to just add additional stress for me trying to coordinate everything with her and my aunt. My mom says I should not ask my cousin. I just feel like I'd feel guilty if I didnt. What do u guys think?
