I'll start off by letting you know that I might not entirely belong here, both my partner and I are queer/ pan-sexual though he mostly identifies male and I mostly identify female so we are technically a heterosexual couple. Both of us are out to our friends and a few open minded family members/ the general public, but are still trying to find the way to come out to our parents (especially as both have problems with polyamory to begin with). My family is very conservative, and although my father is open minded and accepting, my mother is quite homophobic.
My major concern is that we will be having many friends and family members from the LGBTIQ2TSA2 community at our wedding (actually most of our wedding party), many of which will of course be attending with their partners (and some of which have actually been disbanded from my mother's social circle by virtue of solely coming out). I will be talking to my mother (with my father in the room to hopefully help explain) about the importance of leaving phobias and isms at home and basically if she is unable too that she should probably just stay with them.... Does anyone have a gentler way of phrasing this or other talking points that should be addressed? Has anyone dealt with similar situations?
Sorry again if this is not the right place for this... I just wasn't sure where else to ask it.