Dear Amy: Three years ago when I started dating my husband, I asked him about kids and he said, "I could never have kids." Then I asked about what would happen if I got pregnant, and he said we would raise the child together. At the time having kids was not a priority for me, so I brushed it aside.
The problem is that once we got married (five months ago), I realized that having a child is a big priority for me and that I was running out of time.
I knew it was wrong, but I would accidentally-on-purpose skip days of my birth control, eventually ceasing to take the pills at all. I knew that if we had a child, my husband would grow to love it.
The problem was that, after months of this, I never conceived. A few weeks ago, I finally decided to broach the topic again with my husband.
I discovered that he had a vasectomy a year before we met!
He swears that he has mentioned it before, but I know he hasn't. I feel sick knowing that he kept something like this from me. I also feel trapped in my marriage knowing that it will always be just the two of us.
Should I get out while I can and find a husband who wants a child, or will I outgrow this need?
— Desperately Seeking a Child