I was dreading this

M&R7111 · September 2010

The summer of my 10 year high school reunion came and went w/o a word from our jacka$$ class prez - and I was happy as a pig in mud.

FI and I went to the same high school, and we had total opposite experiences. I HATED every minute of it, didn't have a friend in the world, and when I left for college and never came back (until FI and I 'met' I guess).

College was great! Made my best friends there and loved it. Why don't they have 10 yr reunions?

NOW it turns out I'm not off the hook. Just got a FB message that dumba$$ class prez got his act together and a reunion is scheduled for November at a bar down the road.

FI is tickled pink, and I think I'm going to vomit. No - I don't want to see how these people have changed - at all. No, it won't be fun and yes, I will be a stick in the mud about it.

So - being his fiancée, am I obligated to go as his date? I would feel bad leaving him to fly solo to his 10 year reunion, but I had never intended on going - ever. Plus, it would be him and all of his friends I don't know, or care to k now - I would be awkward all night.

However, open bar - maybe I can drink everything away.

dizzinea · September 2010

heres one way to look at it, you don't want to see them, I totally understand this, i was miserable in high school. but you and your fi could go and you can look at it as a chance to show the person you have become, that your happy and about to get married and all that stuff, or you could send him without you, honestly though the people their might surprise you and they may have changed a little

M&R7111 · September 2010

So I post on FB how "looks like the reunion is on - ugg" and got so many responses from people who are NOT going. Maybe we all call can get together and drink somewhere else.

palrmt · September 2010

i just skipped my 10 yr reunion and dont regret it for a second. My FI and I attended different high schools so it was my call as to whether or not we went. He seemed a little surprised that I wasnt really interested in attending but didnt say too much about it. I went to the 5 yr reunion and it was kinda ok but I certainly could have lived without going to that one as well. I didn't have a horrible experience in high school but I certainly wasn't Miss Popularity either. I think high school reunions are a personal choice thing. I would suggest going and at least enjoy the open bar, especially if it's important to your FI to have you with him.

AdeleDazeem · September 2010

A reunion isn't a summons, you know. And why does your fiance need a date? He's going to visit with his old friends and have a good time. I actually think bringing someone who either didn't go to the school or doesn't want to be there will only hurt his good time at reunion. You don't need a date for every social event.

I went to my ten year high school reunion and was underwhelmed. I decided that I won't be going back to any other reunions following this. I had a nice time in high school, but I've moved on from that experience and those people.

My college has ten, fifteen, twenty, etc... year reunions. Your school doesn't? How sad!

[Deleted User] · September 2010

If he really wants to go, go and try to have a good time. We are going to my husband's 10 yr hs reunion in a few weeks. I have not been notified of any of mine if they have had one. I am like you, I hated hs, but H did just fine. We went to different hs, but I am sure we will see some people he could care less about. Thank God his ex shouldn't be there bc they graduated in different years.

Ashes_3 · September 2010

We didn't go, but it was my hs reunion. I think you should go, for him. He shouldn't have to go alone!

zitiqueen · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_dreading-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d90b7622-9f8f-4138-b6b2-9d66f924707dPost:d11ad042-f024-464f-a585-e14fa9ece32b">Re: I was dreading this</a>:
[QUOTE]We didn't go, but it was my hs reunion. I think you should go, for him. He shouldn't have to go alone!
Posted by Ashes_3[/QUOTE]

Yes, he shouldn't have to spend *gasp* an entire night alone without you!!!! Don't you realize that when you get engaged you automatically become surgically attached at the hip and are no longer your own person with your own identity???

I don't think you understand marraige and the responsibilities it entails <em>at all</em>.

jenn.daniel · September 2010

I hated high school but I'll want to go to a reunion to show everyone that I'm so much more successful than those people who wouldn't give me the time of day in high school.

FI says he wants to go to his to show me off to everyone. He hated high school too and apparently the girls were especially bad. Now he's in med school and girls who wouldn't talk to him before ask about him.

AdeleDazeem · September 2010

Thank you, ziti, for being a voice of reason. I was concerned it was only me...

karmellah · September 2010

funny, im in the same sitch. our prez didnt do anything for our 10 year until this nov at a local bar and grille lmao. maybe we went to the same high school ;-)

M&R7111 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_dreading-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:d90b7622-9f8f-4138-b6b2-9d66f924707dPost:4df177db-1285-43a4-b3fb-87a830dade38">Re: I was dreading this</a>:
[QUOTE]funny, im in the same sitch. our prez didnt do anything for our 10 year until this nov at a local bar and grille lmao. maybe we went to the same high school ;-)
Posted by karmellah[/QUOTE

You from Jersey? Are you a former "Spartan"? lol

M&R7111 · September 2010

Unfortunately, since I moved back to the area, I see most of these people I disliked greatly all the time when I go out.

I remember crying to my dad when I was in HS about these mean girls and guys who unmercifully picked on me and he said "Don't worry, when you go to your HS reunion they will be ugly, fat, and unsuccessful."

My dad's a liar! lol These women I see all the time are even more beautiful and (what pisses me off) are so successful too!!! Ugg, it bugs me. I was really looking forward to having the upper hand. I don't know how I'm going to have corrective eye surgery, a boob job, and dental work all by November!

(disclaimer - I'm not this shallow, and yes, I know I'm not ugly nor should I compare my life to these people. )

jcamm11 · September 2010

Teenagers can be real a-holes. Even as an adult, I still feel as though I'm being judged when I am around teens sometimes! I treated some people as if they weren't even human beings in HS (due to my own insecurities), and inside I am really ashamed of that now that I've grown up. I can only assume that those who were crappy to me feel the same way today. I got back as much poor treatment as I dolled out in HS for the record. I think facing those people and getting a different image of them in your head can help you truly get rid of those left-over emotional scars from HS. You shouldn't go for your fiance, you should go for yourself.

karmellah · September 2010

nope. im a mustang lol. thats just too funny our class prez are aweful lol

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

I actually flew across the country for my 10 year reunion. BUT I didn't hate high school. The open bar was nice. My school does it for everyone celebrating a 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 year, etc, reunion. It involves a mass, then a reception. I took my FI with me (because hello, it involved a plane flight) but hardly anyone brought dates. So next time he said he'd come visit with me, but stay at the hotel for the actual reunion!

And my FI's college has reunions. This was his 15 year reunion, but he really graduated 14 years ago - they just combined the classes of 1994, 1995 and 1996. He really wanted to go, we just couldn't swing it. He's never been to a high school reunion, though.

ootmother2 · September 2010

i've found that SOs are somewhat out of place at high school reunions unless they also attended the same school.

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