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Is it Wrong....

to want people to RSVP NO? I know it sounds strange but my parents are both remarried & my step dad comes from 9 children. Who all have grown children themselves. They are all close & needless to say just for my step dads side it makes up 45 guests. We have 110 guests on our list & already sent out our invitations. In some sad way I'm hoping some people say NO. Just to save us some money. All the guests were invited because they are mediate family who are close to us. I know I know you can all hollar at me but we couldn't leave any step aunt or step uncle  or step cousin out.
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Re: Is it Wrong....

  • It's fine to hope for a smaller wedding than you would have if everybody came.  As long as you would be happy with each individual guest attending, and it's just a matter of numbers.  If you are hoping that particular people will decline, then you probably shouldn't have invited those people in the first place.
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  • Not it's not a certain person. We just wanted a smaller wedding. But then we realized while we were making up our guest list we have all of these aunts, uncles, cousins step aunts step uncles & step cousins. It's funny because we never counted the numbers of all of them before and now we know how many & it's like holy crow that's alot of people. We'd be more than happy to have everyone there just wishing a few say no so we can save some money. We've been saving for the last year and a half & have done what we can afford just minus all of the family members. But if they all do say yes then we'll figure it out. We always do
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  • If you wanted a smaller wedding you shouldn't have invited everyone even if they are family..I do know what you mean about the no's though. I'm hoping for a few more no's back also..good luck :)
  • Be careful what you wish for lol!  I kept hoping that we would get a lot of no's, and then we did!  Unfortunately the no's were from people we really wanted to be there.
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  • I get where your coming from, I hope that some of my parents friends who they just had to invite will say no.  I don't know them and don't care if they come. 
    I think its fine to feel that way as long as its not a specific person, and as long as its ok if they don't. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:d643dc76-7ecd-43dd-82bd-f906392ec626Post:be01c359-13af-4d05-80cf-d9609dbe19d9">Re: Is it Wrong....</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you wanted a smaller wedding you shouldn't have invited everyone even if they are family..I do know what you mean about the no's though. I'm hoping for a few more no's back also..good luck :)
    Posted by girl2bewed[/QUOTE]

    This! However, I do know where you are coming from. But like NillaWafer said, be careful about what you wish for. Some of the people I really wanted to see couldn't make it and it kinda bummed me out, but the day when on just fine.
  • i know exactly where you are coming from.  i have a huge family (dad is one of 9 and mom is one of 7) plus a lot of friends that i want to be there, but we have a pretty small budget (for a wedding).  we are going to try to limit our invite list somehow(i don't want to invite people that we can't afford to rsvp yes)

    good luck though...it's expensive having a large family. LOL
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