Over the course of planing this wedding, my FFIL has been crowned the FILZILLA. He has nothing nice to say about ANYTHING about our wedding plans because we didn't want the dog and pony show, how we call it, of a wedding that he wanted. His plans was to have it at his church and the reception in the kitchen area of the church. Okay major problems with his plan, the church is small with not enough parking for the guests. People would have to park in the surrounding neihborhood in front of people's homes. Second, the kitchen area is not enough to even hold 30 people comfortablely. On top of that, there is no where else within the church to do well anything else. Third, the city the church is located is doing construction on the main road that goes to the church and will not even be completed until next year (contacted the city about it when the idea came up). And its not easy getting there let along around the city unless you live here. Last but not least, we didn't have not one voice in how ANYTHING was going to happen.
FI thought it was okay until reality set in that no DJ, no booze, no, well, fun was involved with it. That is when we both put our foot down and said no. So the nightmare began at that point. FFIL has been trying for the last two months, to get FI to take me to the courthouse and get it over with. FI has told him many times to stop because its hurtful to both of us and a insult to my family just because you are not running the show. FI also told him that your late wife might be rolling over in her grave right now with the way you are acting (his mother died when he was 15 from cancer) plus you are letting your bitter feelings about your soon to be ex wife cloud your judgement towards my fiance and everything else.
So we been busting our butts off to get this planned, and love EVERYTHING that we have done and is super excited despite my FFIL objections to EVERYTHING; but now the jabs have started to cause strain on both of us. FFIL has been degrading my FI left and right and making more jabs that we should just go to the courthouse and get it over with and calling me all kinds of horrible things. Mind you he doesn't say this directly to me, lately. Despite the jabs, it has made our relationship stronger but our spirits weaker because the straw broke the camel's back last night. FI and FFIL own two business together and a small issue got blown up for nothing and FFIL called FI many nasty things I don't wish to repeat. On top of that went on a rant that I am this evil gold digger witch! Cried myself so to the point I stayed home from work today.
FI and I feel very much used and abused at this point by my FFIL. I assist with both business when I am not working my normal 40hrs a week. Mostly with the clerical side. Really don't know what to do at this moment, not even feeling up to doing any more wedding planning.
Sorry for the long vent ladies 