Did I mess this up?

retro_bride09 · August 2010

When I designed our invitations, I read over and over about how registry information should be nowhere in the invitation. Now my SIL says I should have included it on a small piece of paper, and that because I didn't nobody will get us anything. She scoffed when I said people would ask if they were interested in getting us a gift. Not that it matter now, since they're already mailed, but I am self-concious that I misunderstood the etiquite. Did I, or is she misinformed?

mica178 · August 2010

You did the right thing. Registry information should not be included in wedding invitations as it implies that you expect gifts from your guests.

MissIntentional · August 2010

no, you were right.
a lot of people do send those little squares with registry info along with invitations, though. especially since the stores push them down your throat.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

Your SIL is an idiot. Registry information goes no where near an invitation.

PharmacyBride · August 2010

They only go on shower invites. Most people in my area give gifts to showers and cards/$ to weddings.

Also, it takes less than two minutes to find a registry on the internet. 10 years ago- it required a phone call.. now it is super simple!

Honestly, people are not going to give you nothing. If you get money and preferred registry gifts... then spend the money on your registry after you are married. Everything will likely be discounted!

TTiger03 · August 2010

I really hate that the stores push those little papers on you. My friend insisted we HAD to put them in her invitations. i thought it was tacky when she did it and they all looked awful anyway. They were little perforated papers that tore all wonky. She said since Bed Bath and Beyond said it proper etiquette it would be rude to not include.

Then again, this is the same girl who invited several people to the ceremony only and told them "if we have enough room you can come to the reception. We'll let you know".

retro_bride: You did everything right. Ignore your sister. I'm sure you will still get plenty of gifts. Many people will know to ask or will just check major stores for your info. If they want to get something but don't see registry, they might do gift cards or cash. Some people might not give anything though.

2dBride · August 2010

People can get your registry information:

* From your shower invitations.
* From your wedding website.
* By calling your mother and asking where you are registered.

Not only is it rude to put them in your wedding invitations, it is unnecessary.

thesuninherhead · August 2010

As above- you were right.

danieliza1127 · August 2010

Your SIL is definitely misinformed. You did the right thing, don't worry!

Kristin789 · August 2010

You did the right thing.
And I don't think SIL is "misinformed." I think she is a mean troll who wants to trip you up, and I wouldn't have anything else to do with her.

breezerb · August 2010

You are right and so are the PPs Just make sure the mothers know where you are registered and put it on shower invites.

retro_bride09 · August 2010

Thank you all! I thought so

@ Kristin. It took me about 10 minutes to stop laughing at this, much appreciated!

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