Saturday was my engagement party/BBQ. FI and I wanted to do something small since our parents had not met yet. So we chose to only have the parents and our wedding party attend. Since our house would not accommodate the 35 people we invited we decided to have the BBQ at the park down the street. I got the menu in order, shopped for food and decorations, and sent out invitations. Now mind you BEFORE I sent out the invitations I emailed everyone to see if they would be available on Sept 3rd for the party. I wanted to make sure everyone could come so the parents and the different sides of the bridal party could meet each other. Everyone said yes and the date was set.
Saturday morning at 6 a.m. I go to hold the tables at the park. NOPE! Someone got there 10 minutes before I did. FI and I are now scrambling to find tables and chairs. Thank God the night before I cooked all the sides, desserts, and put pork in the crock pot for the pulled pork sandwiches. All FI had to do was BBQ the chicken and the corn on the cob. Which he could do at the park yet he chooses to do the chicken at the house an hour before the party. Thankfully a neighbor had some workers at his house with a truck. FI gave him $20 to help us move the big this stuff (tables) down to the park. I get to the park at 1:30 (BBQ started at 2:00) and the park is PACKED. Not a parking spot in sight. So I go back to the house in tears knowing there is no way we can have a get together tables or not at that park. Luckily that morning went we didn’t get the park FI and I looked at other parks in the neighborhood. We saw one that was a lot smaller but actually closer to the house. So I prayed on the drive over with neighbor’s working still following that no one had taken the three tables. Praise God the park was empty! I helped unload the truck and the worker left, leaving me to unload my car by myself. Now mind you I’m dressed for my engagement party in cute shorts, a tee-shirt, and embellished flip flops. Hair is freshly pressed and make-up applied. It is 91 degrees with no breeze and here I am trying to set up a table, BBQ pit, and two pop up canopies all by myself. I am trying to hurry because I have to get the BBQ started so I can cook the corn. I want to start decorating with all these cute decorations that I bought to set the tables with but I can’t. It’s now 1:50 and I still have to call/text all the guest to tell them that I have changed the location of the party and here is the new address. At 2:10 FI shows up with his dad, two more tables, and the chicken. My mom shows up and starts to help me get the chafing dishes set up so the food doesn’t get cold. I LOOK A HOT MESS! Hair up in a clip and sweated out. My make up is all gone. Yet things get set up and it starts to calm down. FI’s side of the wedding party starts to arrive. My sister who dropped out of the wedding for personal reasons shows up. I’m super excited she came to support me. We actually get a chance to talk and squash all the issues that were going on between us. Now here is the kicker none of my side of the wedding party showed up. WTFire? I was soooooo hurt. Now one of my BM was home on doctor’s ordered bed rest. I told her to stay her butt in bed and get better. She was upset that she couldn’t come but texted me all morning with words of encouragement and support. My other BM decided to go on a hike that morning instead of coming. My cousin who is standing up on FI side went to his son’s football game. Now I asked him a month earlier and he and his wife both assured me that the game was on Sunday not Saturday and they would be there. One person just sent me a message on Twitter that she will miss us today. WTFire? Who does that? I am still hurt and upset that they would RSVP and just not show up. We had so much food left over I was begging people to take plates home. What hurts the most is every single person on FI side showed up even the best man’s wife who had just gotten out of the hospital two days earlier. How could people be so inconsiderate? Now I feel like I just wish this whole wedding business was over. I just want to marry my pumpkin, move on, and cut those people out of my life. Bridezilla moment I know, but it’s how I feel right now. Super hurt! Thanks ladies I needed to get that out and I know ya’ll won’t judge me. I love this board! I don’t know what I would do without you ladies.