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Timing is everything! Grrr.,...

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Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,...

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : That too :) But being unsearchable on social media sites definitely helps :)
    Posted by bmo88[/QUOTE]

    No arguments there.
  • I miss you guys.

    That is all for now.
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    [QUOTE]I miss you guys. That is all for now.
    Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

    Well hey there married lady.
  • You should probably get your bleeding eyes checked out. I don't think that's normal.
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  • spartybride3spartybride3 member
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    edited August 2012
    I'm sorry, but I never understood why all of the girls on the national boards attack other girls that ask simple questions. Are some people nieve? Yes. But for the most part, most of them are YOU at the age of 18, 19, 20, etc. Don't hate on them because they are excited about the thought of marriage. It's not really ok to book a florist, venue, etc before getting engaged, but don't attack the poor girl because she is fantasizing about her wedding. 

    Isn't the title of this board Not Engaged Yet? Does that not imply that girls who are not engaged can come here and talk about their future weddings? In fact, the heading on this board says "You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY." Leave the poor girl alone. 


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  • I think the idea of setting dates and creating deadlines in their heads is what sets them up for failure and what the women of this board tend to discourage.
    Also, I would recommend that younger posters don't come on here acting rude and entitled. It's not a good recipe.
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    [QUOTE] In fact, the heading on this board says " You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY." Leave the poor girl alone. 
    Posted by spartybride3[/QUOTE]
    Yeah, we don't like the header at all and wish that it could be changed, but alas, it hasn't happened.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_timing-is-everything-grrr?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:be9953e3-60cd-49cc-af2a-df48dd21ae98Post:58d03d68-1529-4c78-9a17-725c07fbe5e2">Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm sorry, but I never understood why all of the girls on the national boards attack other girls that ask simple questions. Are some people nieve? Yes. But for the most part, most of them are YOU at the age of 18, 19, 20, etc. Don't hate on them because they are excited about the thought of marriage. It's not really ok to book a florist, venue, etc before getting engaged, but don't attack the poor girl because she is fantasizing about her wedding.  Isn't the title of this board Not Engaged Yet? Does that not imply that girls who are not engaged can come here and talk about their future weddings? In fact, the heading on this board says " You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY." Leave the poor girl alone. 
    Posted by spartybride3[/QUOTE]

    The thing is - nobody attacked her.  Well, at least not until she attacked first.

    You're right, the board's tag-line is misleading and gives plenty of people the wrong impression about the types of conversations that take place here, but if you can read enough to read the tag-line, you can read the title of the top sticky.  And if someone chooses to post without checking that out, well, that was dumb on her part.

    But if you'll read back through the thread, you'll see that none of the harsh words toward OP were a result of her fantasizing about her wedding. They were the results of her ridiculous attitude after being told she should probably stop planning.
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    [QUOTE]I'm sorry, but I never understood why all of the girls on the national boards attack other girls that ask simple questions. Are some people nieve? Yes. But for the most part, most of them are YOU at the age of 18, 19, 20, etc. Don't hate on them because they are excited about the thought of marriage. It's not really ok to book a florist, venue, etc before getting engaged, but don't attack the poor girl because she is fantasizing about her wedding.  Isn't the title of this board Not Engaged Yet? Does that not imply that girls who are not engaged can come here and talk about their future weddings? In fact, the heading on this board says " You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY." Leave the poor girl alone. 
    Posted by spartybride3[/QUOTE]

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  • edited August 2012
    Oh. Oh, wow. Is this what crazy on this board looks like? 

    I don't like it. I don't like it one bit. 

    To the OP....I think you're the troll here. 
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  • Also, why is your relationship not Facebook official??????

    Your relationship is invalid, obvsly.
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    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    Yes! I love this guy!
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    [QUOTE]Also, why is your relationship not Facebook official?????? Your relationship is invalid, obvsly.
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    It's FB official; you just can't see it on his page because of the privacy settings.  If you go to her page, you can see that they're "in a domestic partnership."
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : It's FB official; you just can't see it on his page because of the privacy settings.  If you go to her page, you can see that they're "in a domestic partnership."
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    <div>So....they're a same-sex couple? I wasn't aware that could be applied to straight couples....</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : So....they're a same-sex couple? I wasn't aware that could be applied to straight couples....
    Posted by chchchcherrybomb[/QUOTE]

    I think any couple who lives together can refer to their relationship as a domestic partnership.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : I think any couple who lives together can refer to their relationship as a domestic partnership.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    <div>What if you live in separate apartments, but do all housework and cooking and grocery shopping together?  Does that count as a domestic partnership?</div>
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  • Aww I missed a pretty interesting thread. I seriously love how the OP tried to justify herself by trying to state what this board was about. Clearly Peek has no idea, even after all her posts. She just doesn't get it. Gosh! I'm just glad OP pointed that out for all of us.

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  • These threads give all NEY regs a bad name.

    I don't think it's constructive to tell other posters to take a hike, GTFO, sit down and shut up before you get slapped, or to call each other stupid.

    Just because you have friends on the board doesn't make it okay for you to do the exact thing you're telling someone else not to do.

    I love my NEY regs, Pee k, RDR, Elle, and all the rest.

    But I do not love this kind of behavior.

    I think talking about differing points of view is absolutely fine, as long as we can stay on topic and keep personal attacks out of it.


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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    edited August 2012
    I think my response of "take a hike" is fully warranted given the random OP came to the board and told a reg: : <div>
    </div><div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_timing-is-everything-grrr?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:be9953e3-60cd-49cc-af2a-df48dd21ae98Post:605148c6-e23d-4bdc-a84c-32c793e095a0">Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,...</a>:
    [QUOTE]umm yeah this is the not engaged yet message board if your going to hate <strong>get off</strong>
    Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
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    [QUOTE]Actually, my last relationship failed because he was an epic douchenozzle, and it took these girls 6 months of saying "You deserve so much better" for me to realize it. My current relationship is fantastic, and when he started trying to preplan a wedding, I told him to knock that shite off - we weren't doing anything until we were engaged.  <strong>And now we talk about poop.</strong>
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    I <3 Peek.  This thread is horrendous, but Peek is awesome.
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  • Liv - I didn't know we were supposed to report when someone shared too much information about themselves?  It's not my responsibility to protect the OP's privacy. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : While you would hope the OP wouldn't put that information out there herself, bringing it to her attention first ("hey, OP, you have your SO's information in your post, you should probably take that down") would be reasonable and has been done in cases before when people weren't irritated with the poster -- you know, because they were being nice. Is it your responsibility to protect her privacy? No, it's not. But it's your responsibility to not use that information if it is put out there <strong>because you're a decent human being. If someone left a loaded gun on the sidewalk (obviously their fault), would you then pick it up and shoot it because it was there? Probably not. </strong>
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

    I know you're feeling "stabby" today, but saying I'm not a decent human being because I was curious and looked her bf up on FB is a bit harsh.  Elle apparently isn't a decent human being by these standards, and we ALL know that's not true.

    Also, your analogy is not even CLOSE to the same thing.
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  • I didn't even know that the name she put was a male name. I assumed she had taken her boyfriend's last name and her first name and smooshed them together.

  • Hmmm....  I guess I'm just seeing this thread in a different light.  It's hard for me to see where, especially given some past threads around here, this particular thread crossed a line.

    Yeah, I did some cyberstalking to prove a point (since the OP seemed to think it was ridiculous that we could find info based on what she revealed) but it's not like I came on here spewing her information for everyone to read.  I made a couple statements to let her know that I indeed found her, but they were pretty tame.  Believe it or not, I put a lot of thought into the things I did post.

    I guess I just don't see why it was a crime to look her up.  Nobody said anything about it when I looked up that "allie&jas" or "ericsbabygirl" or whatever we call her.
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    edited August 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_timing-is-everything-grrr?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:be9953e3-60cd-49cc-af2a-df48dd21ae98Post:74c1d1a7-d4cc-40bd-bb58-d0fb3277bfcb">Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : The cyberstalking for me crossed the line. If you read my post a few above this one, titled "Food for Thought," you'll see that I take responsibility for the fact that I have let a lot of this stuff slide because you, and others, are my friends and I know your intentions are not malicious. So you're right: Maybe no one said anything when you looked up other people, but they should have. I should have. My main point in the thread I started, and here, is that I hope we can try to give newer posters the benefit of the doubt and use better judgement --<strong> if she did something that put her internet security at risk, yes, that was unwise, but you could point it out to her rather than exploiting it to prove a point</strong>. 
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

    Yes, but we did point it out to her.  She didn't listen.  She said we would have to "hack the knot" to be able to find any info.


    ETA:  I'm not trying to argue about whether the cyberstalking was appropriate or not.  We may disagree (and that's fine), but since you're the mod I kind of have to bend to your standards.  I don't have a problem with that.  Really, I'm just trying to clarify that my posts weren't written out of malice.  *shrug*.  I'm nice, I swear.
  • SKP has been warned once before about posting other peoples info from Facebook on here. At least she held off on posting their photos from FB in this thread. /eyeroll I think Liv's assumption was pretty spot on.
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  • Liv - I'm not trying to argue either.  I'm not sure if you saw my ETA on my pp or not, but that's all I was trying to get across here.
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