Drama is Already Starting.. ughhh

pittpoint1119 · May 2012

Long story short, I met one of my friends in college, she got engaged back when we graduated and had me in her wedding. I met one of her friends from high school and we hit it off. We started hanging out the 3 of us, but then our friend who got married started pulling the I'm married card, the I don't have money card, and the O you don't understand married life. We got annoyed with her and her excuses that we lost touch with her. As soon as I got engaged she messaged me saying can't ait to go shopping blah blah all wedding stuff. We still haven't been much in contact. She then messaged my sister and brother both on facebook and asked if she was in the wedding and if I had made a decision since she didn't hear. They played it off and said they didn't know which they did. She then messaged me and I said I wasn't sure (which I was still weighing options). I made my decision and asked who I asked mostly family and my friend who I met from her to be my MOH because we do everything together and have been there for one another. On Friday she sent me a message and asked since it is my 1 year did I decide. I wass wondering how to say it and if I should. The thing that blows my mine is she is ASKING.. Who ask? I responded politly saying sorry I did ask my bm and no you are not one, but I hope you can be there still. She respones back at me calling me names and saying the joke will be on me the day of my wedding. Mind you she has talked bad about everything I have done. I am just annoyed and she keeps sending me messages. I just respond sorry, hope you can still be there. What should I do? I am nervous what if she would do anything.. ughhhh drama

Anyone else having trouble?

melb2013 · May 2012

Wow that's crazy! It sounds like you've handled it fine. I would just ignore her from now on. If she messages you, just ignore it. Maybe she'll decline the wedding invite.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

Wow...who needs enemies when you have friends like that? I say at this point, don't even invite her to the wedding. Who needs the stress? At a later time if you two want to hash it out, fine but focus on those who are supportive of you right now.

Annas2013 · May 2012

I wouldn't even invite her to the wedding after all that crap. It's not worth any extra drama. I'd also start ignoring her on FB, since maybe she'd stop messaging you then. She's being really immature.

mymissingpuzzlepiece · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_drama-is-already-starting-ughhh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:80c0e6dc-5677-45ba-9d1f-f8a8a47b8352Post:df25dfa5-199a-40ce-a358-afa6f3d7611f">Re: Drama is Already Starting.. ughhh</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow that's crazy! It sounds like you've handled it fine. I would just ignore her from now on. If she messages you, just ignore it. Maybe she'll decline the wedding invite.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

<div>This ^</div>

FLGatorGal88 · May 2012

In Response to Re:Drama is Already Starting.. ughhh:[QUOTE]I wouldn't even invite her to the wedding after all that crap. nbsp;It's not worth any extra drama. nbsp;I'd also start ignoring her on FB, since maybe she'd stop messaging you then. nbsp;She's being really immature. Posted by Annas2013[/QUOTE]

This!!!

SRRL18 · May 2012

Just ignore and don't even waste an invite on her. She's obviously not much of a friend to talk to you like that.

abbyandmatt51 · May 2012

Argh sorry to hear about this. I had a friend do something similar. I have a close group of 4 friends and knew I couldn't have them all (with my sister and FI's 2 sisters, that would just be a few too many BMs for me since we're having a small wedding). I asked the 2 girls right away to be BMs after we were engaged and told them all as a group that I wouldn't be able to have them all as BMs and hoped they would understand. I thought that was a pretty polite way of telling the other 2 girls that they wouldn't be in the bridal party.

Well, months went by and I thought all was settled. Out of the blue, one of the girls who I didn't pick (I picked my 2 oldest friends from the group to have some kind of fairness) called me up and asked about it and told me she was really upset. I had no idea it was bothering her and apologized, but was shocked by her breech of etiquette. I feel that everyone needs to read an etiquette book, bride or no!

This girl sounds like she's being unreasonable and immature. After this, I wouldn't even invite her. Just tell her you won't argue about this any more with her, you've made your decision and then if she keeps bothering you, you can ignore her because you've stated your terms.

Good luck!

pittpoint1119 · May 2012

Thank you everyone for your advice. I am someone that hates to make people upset, but I had to choose and stand by my choice. I am now really thinking of not having her because of something else that just happened. I as spending time with family just now and get on facebook real quick and realize her sister posted about how she has lost friends due to her being ayoung mother. She commeneted on the post saying she seconds that and that it happens all the time esp when you get married. She said that 2 of her friends are selfish and stuck up two face Bitches. Seriously on facebook....are we in high school. This just proves she is not a true friend and makes it easier for me to say Nope not invited. Thanks everyone

SSaltzman87 · May 2012

I'd cut her off. It's not worth it to invite her or give her any satisfaction by responding. I'd also tell your siblings to not respond to her either, that's beyond inappropriate that she'd contact them.

RebCappon · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_drama-is-already-starting-ughhh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:80c0e6dc-5677-45ba-9d1f-f8a8a47b8352Post:66faf0dd-b7e7-4eaf-a73d-0a387e2b9dec">Re: Drama is Already Starting.. ughhh</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd cut her off. It's not worth it to invite her or give her any satisfaction by responding. I'd also tell your siblings to not respond to her either, that's beyond inappropriate that she'd contact them.
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]

This, I wouldn't even invite her at the risk of something happening.

Mandee89 · May 2012

I honestly would not even invite her at all. I was kinda in the similar situation but I kinda just played it off and when my "exfriend" asked I just told her I wasnt too sure yet and then a couple of weeks later I made an announcement on facebook about my wedding website being avialable to loook at and if anyone wanted check it out feel free. I believe she did look at it because I havent heard from her yet. I may invite her to the wedding cause she hasnt been bitter towards me but who knows. If I were you thought to save some drama I wouldnt even invite her. Who knows how she would act on the day of your wedding.

Best of luck

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