I'm marrying my high school sweetheart and we already have a child together. His mother and I could not even speak to each other up until our daughter was born. We get along somewhat now but I know it is only because of our daughter and she wants to be allowed around her. She is taking advantage of the fact I'm trying to keep the peace by being pushy with the wedding and doing things that I don't want done at all. I want a casual country wedding and she's trying to make it all dressy and not us. She picked out the most ridiculous dress for herself, it's a flame red sexy look at me dress! We had all agreed that the mom's would be wearing darker fall color wedding dresses (she said she was going to choose a dark red dress which I was fine with) but she goes and does all these things and is taking advantage of me trying to be nice to her.
On top of that her youngest child will be our flower girl and she keeps trying to push me into allowing her to wear one of those david's bridal flower girl dresses called "mini brides" that is a mini version of my dress! I'm sorry if anyone else likes this because they are cute, but it's not my thing. Little girls don't need to dress up like brides until they are brides and it takes away the specialness of my gown.
What do I do?