So, I just need to vent. I am young, in my 20s, and I have never been in a wedding party before. But literally two years ago I was asked to be in one for a girl who I was close with for a while. (Our boyfriends are like best friends) She has six maids, including me. All the other maids have been BFFs since childhood or are family. They have all also been in wedding parties before, and are in their 30s or late 20s. I keep telling them that I need people help me understand my roll, but no one cares. When I ask questions to them they get upset like I am being stupid for not knowing. last time I went to a wedding I was like 19, and I only went to the reception. I don't know what to do.
Anyway the wedding isn't until september (it was supose to be last september but got pushed to this year for finacial reasons.) To make a long story short, on Saturday we had a Stag and Doe (A party to raise money for the couple, they are pretty common in these parts I am told.) Well I went into it thinking that since no one mentioned it to me, I was not needed to help. Flash forward to 10pm and all the sudden I am tricked into going to the door, where I must take tickets. I was not really briefed on what to do and given a 50/50 box. Everyone else goes to set up food, which I can't go get because I am expected to stay where I am. Flashforward to monday and teh bride is upset with everyone because we didn't do enough. I apologized, because I didn't know. But no one told me. She forgave me because I was ignorant to the fact. But she still called me out on being unwilling to help out. I was more then willing but was not told I was needed. I guess I just want to know if I should feel hurt that I should have known but had no way to know.