ive seen these questions posted and I always wonder how do you have people invited to the shower or bachlorette that aren't invited to the wedding? Well here is how. Fmil already complained her family is not as well "represented" at our upcoming wedding. She was upset some of my second cousins and great aunts/uncles were invited and fi were not. The difference is I grew up in the same neighborhood as this part of my family we had every holiday I'm closer to my two female second cousins than I am to some of my full cousins. My moms cousin (so I don't even know what she is to me is her best friend). Fi has never hung out with his sides, doesn't have their numbers and felt that due to budget and space constraints he wanted to stop at first cousins and aunts and uncles. This has been settled. Well fmil is throwing me a shower in two weeks and tells fi today she invited 10 female extended family members that she 100% knew were not on the wedding list. Count their husbands and we are at 20 extra people. Invites are already back from calligrapher, to accommodate this number I'll have to order extra invites. I'm so upset she did that and when fi asked her she goes well it's not that rude but I guess if she (referring to me) is uncomfortable with having people at the shower that aren't invited shell just have to invite them all. I mean, I have to invite them now right?? Ugh so annoyed!! Thanks for the advice and letting me vent.
