Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous...

charmn311 · July 2012

This is not about my wedding, rather a friends. A good friend of the FI's and mine is getting married in September. They are having a super high class, black tie optional wedding at a country club. 300 guests, open premium bar, etc.

Anyways, FI just went to get measured for his tux and it's $275....!!! Are you freaking kidding me?!?!

Sorry. Had to vent. I feel worse for our other friend who was just asked last minute to be an usher without any mention of how much the tux, etc. was. He's having a minor heart attack right now.

HobokensFury · July 2012

Is there any way to shop around because $275 seems like a lot.

pkontk · July 2012

If its blac tie optional, that means your FI can wear a Hawaiian Shri t right? Because the black tue part is only an option? Seriously though, $275 for a tux is ridiculous. My FI was just fitted for one. Granted he got a 40% discount but it was $110.

charmn311 · July 2012

Nope, bridezilla (NOT our friend, his fiance. who is a story for a different day) has to have a very specific Black by Vera Wang tux and refuses to budge on it.

charmn311 · July 2012

Needless to say, the guys are super pissed right now. $275+ a bachelor party + a wedding gift is a little crazy. The most I've ever seen a tux is $175 and even that seemed a bit ridic.

GoodLuckBear14 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_please-tell-me-i-am-not-the-only-one-who-thinks-this-is-ridiculous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:7834bdda-30fa-4b85-aad5-d312553782bdPost:66f7857b-b870-4bd8-81df-7a2ad313cdb4">Re: Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous...</a>:
[QUOTE]Nope, bridezilla (NOT our friend, his fiance. who is a story for a different day) has to have a very specific Black by Vera Wang tux and refuses to budge on it.
Posted by charmn311[/QUOTE]

Is he in the wedding? If he is, he should have been consulted about budget. If he isn't, the bride can kiss his a$$. She doesn't get to dictate what guests wear. Believe me if you could do that, black dresses would have been banned from my wedding.

charmn311 · July 2012

Yeah, sorry, maybe I should have clarified. He's one of the groomsmen. The best man is getting married the week before him. The other groomsman just bought a house this week. There has definitely not been a single mention or consultation about budget until they went to get measured today since it has to be done by the end of this month. Just a "that'll be $275." Ugh.

charmn311 · July 2012

It's so funny too, because our friend (the groom) is so not a black tie/dress up kinda guy. He's a long haired easy going hippie, and she's basically making everyone do what she wants without any second thoughts. Not completely surprising coming from her though,

GoodLuckBear14 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_please-tell-me-i-am-not-the-only-one-who-thinks-this-is-ridiculous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:7834bdda-30fa-4b85-aad5-d312553782bdPost:53e8734e-bf6d-4864-a94c-59fbb9de3356">Re: Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous...</a>:
[QUOTE]It's so funny too, because our friend (the groom) is so not a black tie/dress up kinda guy. He's a long haired easy going hippie, and she's basically making everyone do what she wants without any second thoughts. Not completely surprising coming from her though,
Posted by charmn311[/QUOTE]

If I were your FI, I'd tell the groom that he wasn't expecting to pay more than $150 (or whatever the norm in your area is). If other GMs are in the same boat, I think an intervention with the groom is necessary. Let's face it. If a bride decided everyone was going to spend $275 on her BM dress, we'd be all over that with a "Oh HELL NO." Same situation here.

Simply Fated · July 2012

In Response to Re:Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous...:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous...:It's so funny too, because our friend the groom is so not a black tie/dress up kinda guy. He's a long haired easy going hippie, and she's basically making everyone do what she wants without any second thoughts. Not completely surprising coming from her though,Posted by charmn311If I were your FI, I'd tell the groom that he wasn't expecting to pay more than 150 or whatever the norm in your area is.nbsp; If other GMs are in the same boat, I think an intervention with the groom is necessary.nbsp; Let's face it.nbsp; If a bride decided everyone was going to spend 275 on her BM dress, we'd be all over that with a "Oh HELL NO."nbsp; Same situation here. Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
I'm in agreement with the bear here.

mbcdefg · July 2012

She doesn't have a gun to anyone's head. She can't "force" your FI, her own fiance, or any of the other guys to do a damn thing. She sounds like a royal twaat, but ultimately if the guys suck it up and pay the $275 then it's their own fault for not speaking up.

If the other guys feel the same way, they should present a united front to the groom and politely but firmly tell him that $275 isn't going to work.

SVPW · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Nope, bridezilla (NOT our friend, his fiance. who is a story for a different day) has to have a very specific <strong>Black by Vera Wang</strong> tux and refuses to budge on it.
Posted by charmn311[/QUoTE]

I wanted this tux too until I found out how much it would cost everyone!

Kate61487 · July 2012

Ditto PPs. Your FI and the other mutual friend should go to the groom and tell him that $275 is just not something they can do. The groom should get to pick the GMs attire anyway; and let's face it a black tux is a black tux.

I thought ours were ridiculous at $170, but the GM assured me they wanted the super lightweight fabric for the cost...

GoodLuckBear14 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Ditto everyone else. It's time to rally the GMs and have a Come To Jesus meeting with this bride. Let her know what the GMs are willing to pay, and of she HAS to have the VW tux, she can pony up the difference. GLB, I'm curious, why black dresses banned? Is there a story here that I've missed?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Oh God, I didn't ban anyone from wearing anything or even mention anything about dress. I just hate being at weddings and seeing a sea of black. The men are always in dark suits and the women are always in black dresses. People can say that times have changed and that black isn't just for mourning anymore but to me it looks like a funeral or memorial that people are attending. The most cheerful looking wedding I've ever been to was in Boston a couple of years ago and not a single woman was wearing black.

I know that some women only have one dress and it is black and that a lot of people think it looks elegegant. To me it has become the "dress up and go out" uniform and I refuse to even own one. The only (and I'm not exaggerating here) the only black dress I have ever seen that I thought was beautiful and elegant was the black velvet strapless that Kate Middleton wore last winter and I do not have the body to pull that one off.

charmn311 · July 2012

I think it's more of me being pissed off at the bride for her lack of foresight. I really don't get along with her (no one does) and she's very demanding, selfish and quite frankly, a giant b!tch most of the time. They have been dating for about 8 years and she's been planning their wedding for 7 of them (literally had programs made, seating charts done, etc.) and they just got engaged this past christmas. She's nuts, and I'm very upset that a) my friend is spending the rest of his life with her and b) we all have to pretend we like her because we don't want to upset the groom. UGH UGH UGH. I told the boys they need to have a groomtervention, though. This is insane.

BeachBride1216 · July 2012

Have him and the other GMs talk with the Groom. If the Groom is as unrelenting as the Bride, let him know that as much as you're friends you just cannot afford $300 on a tux. Sorry, that's ridiculous. If the Bride really has to have $300 tuxes then she should pay for them and that is exactly what I would tell the Groom. I think some brides have a disconnect in that they forget that someone has to pay that ridiculous price and I guarantee you if she were having to foot the bill those tuxes would be at least $100 cheaper. You can buy a brand new tux at Burlington Coat Factory with the shirt and tie and have it tailored for under $100.

zitiqueen · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Needless to say, the guys are super pissed right now. $275+ a bachelor party + a wedding gift is a little crazy. The most I've ever seen a tux is $175 and even that seemed a bit ridic.
Posted by charmn311[/QUOTE]

Throwing a bachelor party and attending a bachelor party isn't required of anybody, even the GMs.

sadieboud10 · July 2012

Wow!! That's ridiculous! I should show this to our past groomsmen who complained about $145. And right when I was feeling bad for them..

Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is ridiculous...

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