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September 2010 Weddings

invite wording

we are having a pretty casual wedding by most standards.  it will be considered formal by fi's family, who normally gets married in town halls and send email invites...by my families standard, it is very casual and relaxed.  with that said, i really want to just write "to the such and such family" when sending invites to families (not just couples or individuals).  My logic is: fi's family is STILL going to think our invites are formal and fancy as none of them have ever received a real invite before and my family will think "it is perfect for a casual wedding."  we do not have any stuffy etiquette masters in either family.  Can i write this on the invites or do i really have to write "mr and mrs. john smith and family"??  seems really lame to me...let me know, trying to address envelopes right now!  

PS for what it is worth, we do not have an inner envelope.

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  • I'd go with your gut - put the family name on there if you are inviting everyone and have no restrictions on children coming.

    I did Mr. and Mrs. John Smith on the outside and then on the inner envelope I did John and Jane Smith to make less formal and to also tell the person being invited who's coming because we did not invite children under 18.
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  • Only you can set the tone of your wedding and I think it's a great idea to be able to do that with the envelope wording.  Go for it!
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  • I did it! both of our families are laid back and causual so they won't even notice. My FSIL last year with hers wrote out everybodys names kids names and all and her family was actually giving her crap about being so anal!!!
  • I like it personally - it seems to fit the style of your wedding!  

    I did formal outside addresses and on the inner envelope super casual first names only. My FMIL nearly died when I told her what I wanted on the inner envelope, but I figured formal on the outside, casual on the inside - just like our wedding !! 
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  • I did this because it fits our wedding. I think it's fine.
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  • Def. go with what you like! It's the little things like this that we obsess over that no one else even notices! FI did the address on one of my friend's and he left off the extra "T" on her bf's name, and I noticed afterward and was like "oh, im sorry about that" and she was like "what? really? let me go check hahaha" she didn't even notice!

    They're just so excited to get them they tear it open!
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    [QUOTE]Def. go with what you like! <strong>It's the little things like this that we obsess over that no one else even notices!</strong> FI did the address on one of my friend's and he left off the extra "T" on her bf's name, and I noticed afterward and was like "oh, im sorry about that" and she was like "what? really? let me go check hahaha" she didn't even notice! They're just so excited to get them they tear it open!
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    LOL, agreed!

    I put the Such and Such Family on mine, and I think my invites are pretty formal.  Plus, I let FI address a bunch of them.  I think getting the names correct are the most important thing.
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  • Always trust your gut!
    You don't have to do the same wording on every invitation, right?  I actually did a little bit different on a couple of my invites that I thought the people (who are stuffy) would be offended if I addressed it the same as the others! 
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  • Ours is a very casual affair. Invites were addressed

    The Jones Family

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    Jane and John Doe
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  • thanks, girls.  i am doing what kath did--formal on some, family names on the others :)
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