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I just got a call from one of my BMs, K.  A year ago, FI and I rescued a kitten from our backyard.  We couldn't keep him, because we already had three cats and a guinea pig.  So we gave them to K and her husband, and their two little girls.

Last night, the cat managed to slip out of the house, and he got hit by a car.

I don't know how to tell FI.  He was so sad when we had to give up the kitten to begin with, and I know he's going to blame himself because we gave the kitten away instead of keeping him.  It's not his fault, and it's not my friend K's fault.  She's so upset already, and so am I.

I'm sorry for bringing everyone down.  I just...I don't know how to tell him.  I don't know how to console K.  I just keep saying that it's not her fault, sometimes these things happen.  I just can't help thinking that if we hadn't given him away, this wouldn't have happened. But it still might have -- a determined cat will do anything to get out, and he was determined.  I'm so upset. 
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  • vallyhoovallyhoo
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    I'm sorry bay :( I lost a cat to a hit and run driver too, it really sucks. Hang in there.
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  • texagjtexagj
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    I am so sorry that happened! I think you are absolutely right though. None of you should blame yourselves. This can happen to anyone. I have always had alot of pets and I lost a cat once who got out of our house.
    Maybe this seems juvenille (I was only 12 at the time) but my mom took his collar and buried it in a box in the backyard and then we painted a large round stone with his name an put it over the burial. My mom still has it out there at her house.
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    Aww, I'm sorry.  I had to tell my daughter that her beloved kitten was hit by a car in front of our house.  She's still upset about it, 2 years later.  At least she didn't see Juliet in the street.  Good luck.
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  • btrflykate1230btrflykate1230 member
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    Aww I'm so sorry! :( That's sad.
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  • baystateapplebaystateapple member
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    Thank you, everyone.

    I know I'm taking it a lot harder than I should, because you're right, it's nobody's fault.  He was just so little.

    And I don't want to tell FI...he's going to take it worse than me.
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  • xoxpipahxoxxoxpipahxox
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    I'm so sorry :(  I'd be taking it just as hard, so please don't feel that you're somehow overreacting.  It's no one's fault.  These things happen.  I once had a cat hit by a car and it was just absolutely devestating.  I'm sorry you're going through this.
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  • Birdie1483Birdie1483 member
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    I'm sorry Bay! I don't think you're taking it too hard at all. I think I will literally have a nervous breakdown when/if something happens to my Oz. My biggest fear is of him running into the street and something happening since we don't have a fence. He uncharacteristically ran out the front door this past week when FI opened it and he really got a talking to if you know what I mean. Sometimes I worry that FI is a little too lax with those sort of things :-/
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  • emilyann21emilyann21
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    So sorry to hear about the kitten. I had the same thing happen last Christmas Eve. I had brought 2 kittens home last year around Thanksgiving to take to the Humane Society to get adopted but my mom and sister fell in love with them and kept them at the house. They were inside/outside cats and the smallest one ran into the busier street one night and we had to go get him out of the road. THEN had to tell my mom on Christmas Eve THEN had to tell my little nieces the next day because they claimed them as their kittens.

    Losing a pet sucks. Plain and simple.**Hugs** and just tell your FI how it happened and that's all you can do. The longer you wait, the harder it'll be though.
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  • MISSCOURTNEY20MISSCOURTNEY20 member
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    Oh Bay, I am so sorry. I have no idea how you can tell him besides just telling him. Just enforce that it is no ones fault. The cat did what it wanted to do and no one could have really prevented that. ((((((HUGS))))))))
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Aw, that is so sad. H and I rescued an abandoned kitty earlier in the summer, took it ot the vet and everything and it ended up dying on us. We were so heartbroken bc we were so used to being up during the night to feed her, just like you would a baby.
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    Poor kitty! :( 
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