Bridal Luncheon for BMs

Re: Bridal Luncheon for BMs

• colleenm18 member

  

  May 2012

  I had never heard of this until TK and it is def not the norm in our circle.  I am doing the same as you.  Having everyone over the day of the wedding to get ready and enjoy some food with me.

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• MeaganR12

  

  May 2012

  I definitely don't think it's necessary, especially given your timing of events. I've personally never been to one. 

  
  

  I would really like to have a Bridal Luncheon or an afternoon Tea or SOMETHING (2 of my 4 BMs are OOT) but I really won't feel like a terrible person if it doesn't happen. I just think it's something cute and different to do if you can.

  

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• lvissers

  

  May 2012

  Yea, I have never heard of this thing before either. When I read about it, I first thought "are you kidding me, another event have to pay for??" lol. I have only been in one wedding and she didn't host one of these. I've never heard of any of my girlfriends doing this either. I am having everyone(bridesmaids, groomsmen and their signifcant others) meet at this casual beach bar that is close to our venue that afternoon before the rehearsal for a couple cocktails and to socialize. Maybe I'll buy a round of drinks for my bridesmaids, but not hosting a whole luncheon. I think that is over the top and unecesary since we will be providing breakfast/lunch the day of the wedding in the suite. Also I don't want to disclude my bridesmaid's significant others since they are all OOT and already wont be able to hang out with their gf's/wives the whole day before the wedding.
  I wouldn't worry about it :-)

  

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• littlemoments324 member

  

  May 2012

  I've never been to a bridal luncheon, nor will I be hosting one.  The girls and I will be hanging out the night before the wedding..I'm ordering pizzas for us...FI is doing the same for the guys in lue of having a RD...The hotel has continental breakfast, so I don't have to worry about that...and the girls have already talked about bringing snacks and whatever to the venue so we have something to snack on while getting ready...
  

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• Amanda1443994 member

  

  May 2012

  I've heard of this before and actually thought it was pretty common. However, seeing as how most of my BM are from out of state, I won't be having one. They will be getting in that Friday too right before the rehearsal, so there really isn't any time for one. All the girls will be at my house all day the day of the wedding to get our hair and makeup done and I will be providing food and drinks then as well. So I def. think what you're doing will suffice.

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• mekiakoo member

  

  May 2012

  Never heard of this and obviously not going to do this. We will be quiet busy and I'll be spending time with them before the wedding too.

  

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• michelle11988 member

  

  May 2012

  I've heard of it before but have never gone to one nor am I hosting one. We will probably all get together for lunch the day before the wedding then get Mani/pedis before the rehersal dinner but I won't be paying for everyone. My mom has said she will buy lunch the day of the wedding for the girls when we get our hair done.

  
  
  

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• newenglandorr member

  

  May 2012

  I am having a bridesmaids luncheon, but it's being hosted by my 2 favorite aunts. In my family, it's usually the aunts who host; my mom did one for my cousin. It will be a small luncheon with the bridesmaids, maid of honor, me, my mom, FI's mom and sister so only about 10 of us total. My aunts are having a lot of fun designing invitations, etc. I'm really excited and grateful that they wanted to do this!

  

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• Nati05 member

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  I heard of it for the first time when I was a BM in a friend's wedding. But she also comes from a fancy traditional southern family from TN. Lol so it was a first for me for sure.. and only so far. Unfortunately I had to drop out so I can't tell you what it was like. I will tell you I was weirded out when I saw it on the itenirary. All I thought was "Wth is this? Something else I have to pay for???" Haha obvi I had no idea this was a hosted event. I just felt like I was being forced to attend a stuffy luncheon at some fancy place and then pay for it on top of everything else I was paying for in that wedding. Then again, this was when I was happily single and anti-marriage hahaha! I cringe when I remember the uncooperative BM I was for that short time LOL... this planning process is probably my karma coming back to get me.
  
  Anyway, do you NEED one? No. Would it be fun? Probably. But with how budgets are these days, I wouldn't worry about it. I like your timeline and the activities you've included. Your BMs will be happy BMs

  

  

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• butterflyjumper1

  

  May 2012

  I think it would be fun, but it really doesn't work time-wise with our weekend. I think we will just have lunch brought in while we are getting ready the morning of the wedding. Lots of the girls will either be working on Friday, or driving in from out of town that day. Maybe I will just do it for whoever is around that day?? So many things to think about hahaha! 

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• bridetobe71412

  

  May 2012

  Thanks, ladies! Sounds like I'm not being a bad bride by not having one.
  
  Maybe I'll do something like you guys suggested and for whoever is in town on Friday during the day, we can all go and get mani/pedis together (I think that will only be my mom, me, my FMIL, and maybe my FSILs). I won't pay for it, but maybe we can do it together if they're around and want some extra bonding time.

  

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