Not ettiquette related but want opinions of the married ladies!

hwoychowski · August 2012

So again, NOT ettiquette related but would really like a few opinions and the Honeymoon board is pretty vacant. So..... did you go on your honeymoon the day after the wedding, did you wait a little bit if so how long and do you wish you waited / went earlier?

I am wondering as our wedding is on Sept. 29th, we originally wanted to leave October 1st. But now (1) going to be getting my period like the 2-3rd day we are there (2) Have less PTO than I thought so maybe spreading over the following weekend would be better. (Not a totally bad thing, but still sucks) (3) Love the idea of going right away but is that too much stress and pressure of go-go-go?

Please tell me from experience thanks!

ski2play · August 2012

We waited one full day before leaving and it was nice to be able to see some more of the guests that came from a distance.

Girlie1030 · August 2012

We got married on Friday, left for Hawaii on Sunday and it was perfect for us. We got to hang with his family on Saturday before they went home and also get some last minute errands done.

funandfreckles · August 2012

We're leaving two weeks following our wedding. Mostly because there's another wedding the weekend after ours for a very good friend, but also because we will have stuff to tidy up and take down from the wedding, and I don't want to rush rush rush. Lots of our friends that got married this summer are taking their honeymoon in the winter.

SunriseAmber · August 2012

We are waiting to go on the honeymoon. I read in a magazine article (don't know how much truth there is to this but..) women who go on honeymoons right after the wedding get a slight depression after. The reasoning behind it is there is so much planning up until the wedding and then BAM it's all done and over with.

So the article recommended to wait and plan your honeymoon for a few months after. But like I said I don't know how much truth there is to that.

We are going to wait only because we want a really great honeymoon and are finances won't allow for us to have the wedding and the honeymoon we want all at once. I'd say to wait.

Maggie0829 · August 2012

We got married on a Saturday and left for our HM on Monday. Boy am I happy that we waited an entire day. H had a bit too much fun at our wedding travelling that Sunday would have been agony on him (and me). I was also able to unwrap the presents and open the cars that we received at our wedding, pack for the HM and clean up our house.

KellyBrian2013 · August 2012

We got married on a Friday (3rd) and left the following Saturday (11th)... we planned it so that I could finish my summer semester, but it worked out great because DH also wound up in an 8-week school for work that ended the week after the wedding.

It kind of sucked to have to wait a full week, to be honest, but it was also nice that we got the rest of the weekend to relax and spend some time opening cards, visiting with OOT family, etc.

WinstonsGirl · August 2012

We got married the end of March (spring break) and went on our honeymoon mid-July. I teach, so getting straight out for a honeymoon was not possibly unless we wanted to get married in the summer. We originally had not planned to have a honeymoon since we went to Hawaii to get married, but decided to book one anyway. Those few days after the wedding in Hawaii were no honeymoon, as we spent more of our time with family and friends (H's family is all out of town from where we live). Loved spreading it out as it was much more relaxing. I was exhausted after the wedding.

baystateapple · August 2012

We went the next day. In hindsight, I wish we'd waited a few months, and just taken a few days off after the wedding to relax. We were SO TIRED for all of our honeymoon.

Meegles4 · August 2012

Got married on Saturday, left pre-dawn on Monday (which sucked). My mother hosted my OOT family for a brunch on Sunday, and while I thought we'd only be there until 4 or 5, we didn't leave until 11. Wups.

For us, the extra day was necessary. We used it to get all the $$ from the wedding deposited and get gifts organized so I could start on TY notes on the plane. Also, due to the brunch plans, it worked out and it was nice to sort of sleep in and be lazy the day after the wedding and not have to travel right away.

The one thing I wish we would've done is added an extra day between when we returned from HM before we went back to work. We returned late Monday night and were back at the office on Tuesday due to PTO issues. That sucked. Would've been nice to have a day to unpack and ease back into things.

LesPaul · August 2012

We were married on a Saturday, and left for HM on Monday. We wanted a day in between to unwind, and see our OOT guests before they went home.

Nothing wrong with waiting to go - it can be a few days, or a few months. Whatever suits you and FI best.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

We left the next day and it was the best decision we made. We both had a ton of family in from out of town. I know if we were home we would have been pulled in every possible direction because everyone would have wanted to spend that time with us. It would have stressed me out beyond belief to try and continue to make sure everyone was happy. We really enjoyed having that time for us.

MrsKathyC · August 2012

We got married last Sept and went on our honeymoon in January. Mostly because of H's job, when it was a good time for him to take off work.

LDubHawksFan · August 2012

We have a wedding the next Friday, so we are waiting a week to leave for our honeymoon. I am going see my family off, relax, send all our thank yous, etc. I would recommend waiting at least one day! Also, I think I'm supposed to get my friend while on our honeymoon too, but I'm going to talk to my dr. about skipping the placebos.

hwoychowski · August 2012

Thanks everyone! It sounds like Saturday wedding, Monday honeymoon is the consensus. I think we may go that way (actually the hotel is already booked but have up until the week before to make modifications). I think that years from now I will remember that we went right after the wedding (well a day to recover then go) rather than the missed PTO. Thanks ladies!

JoanE2012 · August 2012

We are getting married on a Saturday and leaving for our honeymoon the following Saturday. We are going for two weeks and wanted to maximize our time and take advantage of the weekends instead of leaving on a Monday.

zantster · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-ettiquette-related-but-want-opinions-of-the-married-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b8db040d-dd46-4a52-9a19-1c1cf69395cfPost:3ed34fcc-07a0-488b-ab65-4a88fce213c1">Re: Not ettiquette related but want opinions of the married ladies!</a>:
[QUOTE]We are getting married on a Saturday and leaving for our honeymoon the following Saturday. We are going for two weeks and wanted to maximize our time and take advantage of the weekends instead of leaving on a Monday.
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

This is also what me and FI are doing. He's got family and friends coming from overseas since he's from the UK. And many of them he hasn't seen in years. So we are allowing a few days time to rest, relax, clean up and organize a bit and spend some time with my new in-laws on a leisurely time frame. Then we're going away for two weeks as well.

MyUserName1 · August 2012

We had three months between the wedding and the honeymoon, and it was the best decision for us.

We loved having the three months to plan what we were going to do in France while we were there. We had our hotels and plane tickets booked, but nothing else. We were able to go on trip advisor and find good restaurants to go to and the best plan for seeing sights (Oh, this is closed on Mondays, so we'll have to go on Tuesday!)

I think we wouldn't have gotten as much out of our honeymoon if we had gone right away. I'm so glad we did it this way!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-ettiquette-related-but-want-opinions-of-the-married-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b8db040d-dd46-4a52-9a19-1c1cf69395cfPost:c6af25a4-52c9-4340-8ca6-f96d3049df94">Re: Not ettiquette related but want opinions of the married ladies!</a>:
[QUOTE]We waited one full day before leaving and it was nice to be able to see some more of the guests that came from a distance.
Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

Same. We were married on a Sunday and left on Tuesday. My parents left Monday afternoon/night.

I would not have wanted to go back to work right after my wedding. I saved my PTO, but I still only took 6 days off, total, so our HM was like 5 days.

Avion22 · August 2012

We waited about a month. I couldn't take that much time off in one month for both the wedding and a honeymoon, so it was a lot easier to wait and go later.

Calypso1977 · August 2012

we had a morning wedding, and honeymooned just an hour away from where we live. we left that evening.

had we taken a "real" honeymoon (i.e., get on a plane and go somewhere for a week) then we would have flown out on sunday, unless rates were much cheaper by flying monday morning.

m tulli · August 2012

My first wedding I went right away and was so tired the first several days. This time he couldn't get the week after off so were going next week for our which is 2 1/2 weeks after At first I was disapointed but now I'm happy it worked out like that. I'm rested back up and can fully enjoy it. I also was able to spend more time with family that traveled for the wedding

MoonlightSilver · August 2012

We got married on a Saturday and left for our honeymoon Monday morning. I'm glad we went right away. I was all caught up in the newlywed feel, and I'm not sure I would have felt the same way taking a honeymoon at a later date.

I've also met a few people who decided to postpone their honeymoon a few months, then ended up deciding it wasn't worth the money and never going (or only going after a few years of marriage for an anniversary trip).

itzMS · August 2012

We waited about 10 days. I wanted to get gifts put away and thank you notes written prior to leaving for the honeymoon so I could fully relax. That's just my personality though!

celticmyss · August 2012

We have about 1 month between our wedding and honeymoon. Waiting saved us a fair amount of money and will allow time to prepare for our trip. We're going to Europe so figuring out transportation, lodging, and sites to see is a big undertaking.

If we were going to relax on a beach somewhere I would have been happy to leave the Monday after our Saturday wedding.

KatWAG · August 2012

We are married on Saturday and left for Thjailand on Monday afternoon.

We had a brunch on Sunday with family, were complete zombies Sunday night, and spent Monday morning packing up anything last minute things.

jemmini6 · August 2012

We left at 11am the morning following our wedding, and it wasn't really that bad. It took a little extra planning to make sure we had our bags packed for the HM before the wedding, but it wasn't nearly as stressful as I thought it'd be.

I loved leaving the next day though, it definitely had that feeling of being swept away and just the two of us in our newlywed bubble. It was one of the most relaxing vacations we've done as well, so it was nice to have that week to just unwind and lounge by the pool (we purposely chose a location that wasn't all 'go go go').

brilibby4 · August 2012

We got married on a Saturday evening and left for Cancun Monday morning. It was really nice to have the day off in between to have breakfast with our guests who were still around, open gifts, and catch up on sleep.

OliveOilsMom · August 2012

We were married on a Friday night in March and left for 2 nights at a B&B on Sunday. We wanted the day in between. We took our big honeymoon in July. H doesn't get much PTO at his job, since he is technically part-time. But he is a teacher's assistant so he has off summers. That's why we waited. Otherwise, we probably would have gone right away. I am glad we waited. It gave us something else to look forward to after the wedding.

krizzo17 · August 2012

We got married on a Sunday evening and left 6 hours after the end of our reception (at 4am). This was largely because we were staying at his parents' timeshare which was a Sunday-Sunday rental, so we figured we might as well take advantage of as much all-inclusive as possible. Leading up to the wedding I was nervous about such a short time, but honestly, I was still on a such a high from the wedding it didn't really matter.

Other things that helped included that we had our reception about 20 minutes from the airport, so we stayed in a hotel at the airport and just took a shuttle over in the morning. And I sleep well on planes. So, I guess you can look at all the factors involved to see what's right for you

kw44932 · August 2012

We're also getting married Sept. 29th, and we're leaving the next day. Mainly because we didn't want to wait a couple of weeks, and we're doing a cruise that leaves from our home state and they only do Sunday - Sunday cruises. It's only about an hour drive to the port. If we had to drive really far or fly, we might have waited until Monday to leave.

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