I'm not sure this fits here, but since I've seena lot of venting, and that's kind of what I need to do, I guess I'll go ahead.
My fiance and I have been engaged officially for over a year now, and "unofficially" for over a year before that! My parents are paying for a very large chunk of my wedding, as is traditional. However, as I started to bring up the fact that it's about time to start booking things and putting down deposits my mom starts freaking out on me that they don't have the money to do this. She keeps asking me to change my venue that we've had picked since last Summer, thinking that it's going to cost too much. We don't have to pay to rent the facility and it's $10-15 a plate for a plated dinner!!! She's worried about renting chairs and tables and linens and all of the nickle and diming that comes with getting married at a golf course that's not fully equipped for weddings. I keep trying to sit down with my parents and explain all of the budgeting I've done, showing that this is the most affordable way to do this.
I feel like they have had plenty of time to budget and plan, and I'm offended that it has to be this way. We managed my sister's wedding in less than 8 weeks of planning, and it cost less than 3 grand. My wedding won't be like that, but I feel like that's what my mom expects. I'm not in a case where people will be handing me everything because they feel bad that I'm pregnant and my HTB is going away to Iraq just weeks after the wedding. I'm a traditional bride, and we will have a larger number of guests because people will have a usual amount of time to plan on coming. I feel like I"m getting the short end of the stick, again. comes with being the baby child i guess.
Also, getting my fiance to decide on anything is very hard too. He keeps saying that we can't make any choices until we get things figured out with my mom, but there are things that we can do, and he's not helping at all. He wants to be involved in the planning, but when he won't settle on anything that i suggest, or come up with anything of his own it's very hard to involve him!
Any tips of things that I can say to either of them to make it all go over more smoothly?
Thanks for listening.