My MOH dropped out because she doesn't approve of my groom-to-be. She has invited my other bridesmaids over her house individually (behind my back) & talked to them at length about her concerns, but all of my other bridesmaids honestly think she is a tad nuts -- even after she presented her "best case" to them. I will even tell my bridesmaids, "Hey, I don't think it's fair to say she's completely crazy," but they will insist this is how they feel.
My fiancee saw how devastated I was after she dropped out, and he's now trying to reach out to her & see if they can have a discussion. He told my former MOH that he sees how happy she makes me, so he wants her to be a part of things (despite the fact that she clearly trashes my fiancee... this is what a great fiancee I have!!!). Anyhow, I'm going to assume that my former MOH continues to want nothing to do with our wedding (I think that's a fairly safe assumption to make). At that point, my question is: Do I just have no MOH at all? My wedding is still 10 months away, and I asked my bridesmaids almost 1 year ago already. In the meantime, I've gotten much, much closer to one of my bridesmaids (our friendship had just begun to blossom when I asked her to be in the wedding). Would it be so terrible if I asked her to replace my MOH (obviously, I would never use those words!!!)? My gut tells me it'd be fine.