ok this is a tough choice to make..... here is the short version My aunt (moms sister) has a new boyfriend (1 year) who the family doesnt care for as he has been physically violent towards her and ended up in jail and whatever else.... my cousin (aunt's daughter) whos is like a sister to me HATES HIM and has practically lost her relationship with her mom over him. My cousin is older,married with kids of her own. Basically my aunt cheated on my uncle so my uncle doesn't care to see this guy. So my dilemma is i would really love to have my uncle at my wedding but how do i ask my aunt not to bring her boyfriend or that he isn't invited without starting a massive family fight.... ps. we are italian so you can imagine the drama it would start. and if i say bring him then a fight will break out for sure! HELP PLEASE