I hope someone out there can help with this. My fiance and I live in Washington, DC, but he is from Long Island. We met in DC, fell in love in DC and will live her after the wedding. Also, I am FROM DC. My fiance has a much larger family than I do (and my mother passed away three years ago), but I still have many close friends and family friends of my mother's here. His mother assumed we would get married in Long Island because they have the bigger family and I decided to keep an open mind and looked at venues there. But the more I thought about it the more I realized I would regret it if I didn't get married in my hometown. When we told his mother we've decided to have the wedding here she threw an absolute fit. She's said she'll come to the wedding but unless it's in Long Island she won't provide any financial assistance (yet she expects us to have a traditional, expensive Long Island-style wedding). Am I being crazy for wanting to get married here? How much consideration should his side of the family get? My groom is completely on my side and says the immediate family will come wherever, it's about 50 extended family that won't leave Long Island. I don't know what to do. It's hard for me to ignore because I hate feeling as though I've upset someone. And my groom said she'll take every chance throughout the year to get in a dig if we don't have it in Long Island. We've been engaged four weeks and she's ruining this experience for me. Help!!