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I lost my matron of honor! :-'( (Vent)

Just need an outlet to vent and get support (told FI but you know guys don't really care too much about wedding details). Just got a text message from my matron of honor saying that she has to step down to guest because it'd be in the best interest of her family. She has 3 kids & 1 on the way and thinks that it'd be too much of a hassle to try to juggle the duties of MOH & mother alone. Her husband is our pastor and officiant & his sister is one of my bridesmaids so there goes her help & support system. I'm not mad at her, just disappointed and a little worried. This is the 2nd person who has stepped down---had a bridesmaid step down just last month (reasons still not clear but I got the hint that it's a financial/personal issue). Now I only have 2 girls left (crossing my fingers on them lol). I do have other female friends that I could replace my MOH with but I don't think I'd feel comfortable placing that title on any of them. Part of me still wants to honor or give notice to my ex-MOH. I've heard of the term "honorary attendants" but I'm not sure how that particulary works. And I'm not sure but I think it'd be nice if instead of a bouquet, she got a nice wrist corsage to wear. If you made it this far, thanks so much for reading. Any helpful comments & advice is much appreciated.  
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Re: I lost my matron of honor! :-'( (Vent)

  • Awwww.... I'm sure it was hard for her to tell you as well.  I think the wrist corsage would be nice and she'll love you for it.
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    [QUOTE]Aw <a href="http://www...." rel="nofollow">www....</a> I'm sure it was hard for her to tell you as well.  I think the wrist corsage would be nice and she'll love you for it.
    Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]<div>This!

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I lost my matron of honor! :-'( (Vent) : This!
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    Agreeded!

     

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    [QUOTE]Aw <a href="http://www...." rel="nofollow">www....</a> I'm sure it was hard for her to tell you as well.  I think the wrist corsage would be nice and she'll love you for it.
    Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

    This!
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  • I agree with pp and I'm so sorry for you, but you're such a great friend to your MOH for understanding and still wanting to honor her.
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  • I know how you feel.  I goy your back.......send me her dress, I will stand up for you. Hope I made you smile.
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    [QUOTE]I agree with pp and I'm so sorry for you, but you're such a great friend to your MOH for understanding and still wanting to honor her.
    Posted by ejagers[/QUOTE]


    This :)
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  • Sorry this happened! Agree with PP on the gift.
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  • Ok, I have calmed down. Thank you so much, ladies, I knew I could count on ya''ll to give me positive feedback & support. Ok, so I think I'm going to go ahead and give her a corsage and put her name in the wedding program as an honorary matron of honor. I'm still undecided whether I'd keep my bridesmaid count at 2 or add someone else for the sake of equality with the groomsmen but part of me doesn't want any ol' person standing up there with us. Good thing I have some time to think about this. Thanks again.

    @yogiebhill That definitely made me smile lol Thanx Smile
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  • Anytime........xoxoxoxo Wink
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  • God bless you!
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