Curious on ideas to set up head table

Re: Curious on ideas to set up head table

• HobokensFury member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_curious-on-ideas-to-set-up-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:f04cbfdd-9993-475d-b4ce-c5b240afff42Post:4e879e2f-3bba-41a3-a835-e771327b0973">Curious on ideas to set up head table</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hello ladies, I have plenty of time to think about this as we are not getting married for a year but just curious about some ideas you all might have about how to set up our head table. My FI and I will have 6 attendants each, the diffuculty is however that I will have 4 bm's and 2 bridesMEN. The guys that will be bridesmen are great friends of both me and my fiance, I just am not sure how to set up the head table so it looks balanced but to not have my two wonderful guys feeling left out from the groomsmen. Any idea/ advice? (also please no rude comments, if you do not agree with my choices please do not comment) Thanks!
  Posted by jfox14[/QUOTE]
  
  1) It's the internet, you can't tell people how to reply.
  
  2) Head tables are a thing of the past.  WP members must be seated with their dates, which is one reason sweetheart tables have become popular. Just seat the WP members among the guests or at their own table.

   
   

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• mbcdefg member

  

  June 2012

  We didn't assign seats. We sat in the middle and everyone else and their dates just picked from the rest of the seats. Really, it doesn't matter who sits by whom. The guys won't pout all night if they're not grouped according to penis vs vagina. Don't split them up from their dates. They WILL care about that. Plus there's absolutely no point to it, especially at an event that's celebrating a loving couple.

  

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• beth34608

  

  June 2012

  we are having a sweetheart table, so everyone can sit with their SO.

  

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• GoodLuckBear14 member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_curious-on-ideas-to-set-up-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f04cbfdd-9993-475d-b4ce-c5b240afff42Post:4e879e2f-3bba-41a3-a835-e771327b0973">Curious on ideas to set up head table</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hello ladies, I have plenty of time to think about this as we are not getting married for a year but just curious about some ideas you all might have about how to set up our head table. My FI and I will have 6 attendants each, the diffuculty is however that I will have 4 bm's and 2 bridesMEN. The guys that will be bridesmen are great friends of both me and my fiance, I just am not sure how to set up the head table so it looks balanced but to not have my two wonderful guys feeling left out from the groomsmen. Any idea/ advice? (<strong>also please no rude comments, if you do not agree with my choices please do not comment) Thanks!
  </strong>Posted by jfox14[/QUOTE]
  
  Good luck with that.  People don't like anything more than being told what they can and cannot comment on when YOU posted on a public message board.
  
  Head tables went out of fashion more than a decade ago and I would strongly encourage seating your BP with the guests.  If you insist on doing the head table, make it a King's table so that they can sit with their dates.

  Proud to be an old married hag!!

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• jfox14

  

  June 2012

  Thank you, I'm a young bride and the weddings I have been to have all had head tables with just the wedding party so I appreciate different ideas, especially not separating them from SO. I hated when my FI was in the wedding party and I had to sit alone.

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• jfox14

  

  June 2012

  I also really like the sweetheart table idea. Also I wasn't telling anyone how to respond I have just seen a lot of rude comments on here before and I was kindly asking people not so be rude. I do appreciate straight forward answers like the head table thing is old and gone

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  June 2012

  I highly recommend using a King's Table. This is what my FI and I are going to use for our wedding. We're planning on having four attendants each, and two of them are Bridesmen, my brother and my best guy friend. It won't look weird or strange or uneven. It will look like both you and your groom are very considerate of your guests and want them to be as comfortable sitting with their SO as you plan on doing.

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• mbcdefg member

  

  June 2012 edited June 2012

  We had four bridal party members and three brought dates, so we had a long head table for nine. My cousin and her H sat with both sets of parents. Every other wedding I've ever been to except for mine, and a bridal partyonly head table in 1992 has had a sweetheart table. If you can't fit the whole bridal party and their dates at one table, and you don't want a sweetheart table, then you could sit with the Best Man and MOH and their dates. Or the siblings and their dates.

  

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• jfox14

  

  June 2012

  I do like the kings table idea but we have a giant wedding party already lol. I have never seen the sweetheart table thing around where I live, but I'm also in an area of a lot of small farm towns that may not be caught on to the new ideas yet haha.

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• Simply Fated member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_curious-on-ideas-to-set-up-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:f04cbfdd-9993-475d-b4ce-c5b240afff42Post:58bb811d-2498-4611-914b-0531a291f1bc">Re:Curious on ideas to set up head table</a>:
  [QUOTE]I do like the kings table idea but we have a giant wedding party already lol. I have never seen the sweetheart table thing around where I live, but I'm also in an area of a lot of small farm towns that may not be caught on to the new ideas yet haha.
  Posted by jfox14[/QUOTE]
  Be a trendsetter!
  
  To ensure everyone gets to sit with their dates, why don't you have everyone on his side sit at a table with their dates. And then have everyone on your side sit at another table with their dates. Two table with 12 people each. If they don't all have dates, that's fine, just more elbow room. You can sit in the middle with your new husband at a sweet heart table.
  Is that the sort of thing you're looking for?

  
  

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  June 2012

  My cousin had them, their bridal party and their dates at tables that were in the shape of a square in the middle of the room. That way they could talk more and enjoy dinner with their spouses.

  "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"

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