One of my bridesmaids has graciously offered to have a shower for me. She's really eager about it and wants to talk about it every time I see her. I'm glad she's excited of course but the other day she was discussing it in front of one of my best friends who is male. He asked if he could come and before I could say anything, she just said no and that was that. He's one of my best friends but if she doesn't want him there, I don't want to offend her and ask for him to be invited. I'm not even sure really who's in charge of who gets invited and I just really don't want to commit a faux pas by making inappropriate requests. It's really nice that she's doing it but I'm not sure how excited I am about her being rude to my guy friend.