Hi Ladies,
I'm new to the boards! My FI and I are (maybe it should be a were now) planning on getting married 9/10/11 at my parents house. My parents were going to pay for the wedding, however it was still going to be a lot of diy and things like that to keep the cost down. So...
My mom has a, let's say, special personality. All my life my family has had to walk on eggshells around her. I'm not sure if we've had a nice holiday since I was about 5 years old. A couple of years ago my FI and I decided not to go to our hometowns for the holidays because of the drama. Well, last year my mom decided to come up and it didn't go very well. I forgot and her and my dad came up again this year. Pretty much I was kidding with her and she took it the wrong way so she cried all day yesterday. Most people will say "well didn't you apologize". And yes I did but she doesn't want an apology she wants me to grovel for hours/days. I'm done with this, groveling, and have been for the past couple of years.
My predicament with the wedding is that in the past it takes her months to come around and then I still have to apologive, even if I didn't do anything. Since the wedding is supposed to be at their house and I don't have months to put planning on hold I'm wondering if I should try to find another location and my FI and I just save up and pay for it ourselves.
My FI and I have also considered going to the courthouse and getting married and then having a wedding later when we can afford it. Also, my FI and I have dated for 7 years and things have been put on hold due to money and my mom!