Hi, everyone! I usually post on the winter wedding or Dec 09 boards, but I figured this was a P&E question. My FI& I are getting married in a private ceremony at an inn in Virginia (no waiting period makes it convenient with our travel) and then we are headed to our hometown in New York for a reception with family and friends. We moved to Texas a couple of years ago.Because of the private ceremony and the different states, we are not having a traditional bridal party. I have been trying to reach out to my friends and invite them along when I try on dresses or other wedding-related things. I don't want anyone to feel snubbed for not being asked to be a BM. FI& I don't have any sisters, so they would definitely be my BMs.I was thinking of maybe having a little "unofficial BMs" party. I could make a cute invite asking them to be my "unofficial BM" with the pros (not having to buy or wear a matchy-matchy dress, not having to stand in the snow in NY for pictures, still get invited to the reception, whatever) and invite them to come over for drinks.Has anyone done this or heard of this? Do you think that the girls would enjoy this?