Poll: What kind of wedding guest are you?

Re: Poll: What kind of wedding guest are you?

• jennifer111180 member

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  I don't know that I've ever been a "bad" wedding guest, but I will say that I was always pretty bad about sending in the RSVP cards in a timely manner. I would usually wait until the very last possible day to send it in.

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• wlfpkbride member

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  Ok I'll go. I didn't know you weren't supposed to wear white. I wore a mostly white dress (with a little pink) to my cousin's wedding. I also forgot to RSVP to a wedding (I was out of the country and didn't actually receive the formal invitation until I got back a week before the wedding, is that an excuse?) I did tell the bride in an e-mail that I wouldn't miss it for the world.

  
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• arobertson62282

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  I'm not sure I've ever been a bad wedding guest, but I certainly didn't understand the rules of etiquette. I always thought that it was one gift per wedding...not per event. I guess technically, a gift is required for each wedding related gift you attend. Me personally, I don't expect it because I know times are tough, but I didn't know that a bridal shower gift and wedding gift were the norm.

  

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• keserzan

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  Normally I'm pretty considerate and "etiquette savy" if you will. But I did notice, while going through some old wedding things I'd collected for when I started to plan my own wedding that I still have an RSVP card for a wedding. Why didn't I send that in? I know I didn't go to the wedding, but really? - SLACK!The one thing I probably didn't think about years in the past as a guest, which actually caused me some stress when planning my own wedding, was what time to show up for a wedding. I was worried, when planning my own, about listing 4:45 as the start time on the invite to make sure all guests are there if I wanted to start the processional at ~ 4:53 or so to have the hour chimed exactly at 5:00 right before I walk down the aisle. When discussing that with my Mom and the Director, they both told me that most guests already know to arrive 15-20minutes early because of this. I can't say I always did that.

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• arobertson62282

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  Oh good point on arrival times - I've always known to show up 15 minutes in advance but I once attended a wedding with a bf who thought we could show up 5 minutes before start. I've seen plenty of people come in right at the start time which really woudl drive me crazy.

  

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• katherineUTC

  

  July 2009 edited December 2011

  I've been a bad wedding guest In '04 I was invited to a wedding, I couldnt go but I didn't send a gift. I figured if you werent able to go to the wedding, you didnt have to give a gift. Fail... Then in '07 I was invited to a wedding and it was JUST my name on the invitation, no 'and guest' or anything. The bride was a friend of mine so I called her and said, can I bring Ryan (we'd been dating 6 months at that point), I figured she probably MEANT to include him but didnt put his name on the invite. Fail again... Last year we went to a wedding and I verbally gave my RSVP. The bride finally called us and said PLEASE send in your RSVP, even if you hand it to me. Needless to say, now I *get it* on all these counts.

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• shigaites

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  I never sent a gift to a wedding I was invited to but didn't attend.  To my credit, these were always weddings where I vaguely knew the person and I have no freakin' clue why I was invited to begin with!

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