poll -- bar for extra half hour?

delicatefew · July 2009

So I think we've decided to extend our reception by 30 minutes. We have to pay an additional flat amount for the extra 30 minutes, but the bar isn't included. So would you:A. Close the bar at 11, but have the reception go till 11:30B. Have the bar become a cash/consumption bar for the last half hourC. We suck it up and pay the bar tab for the last half hour in addition to the flat fee?

pumpkinseed12 · July 2009

I'd say suck it up. Why did you decide this? To make up for the extra half hour at dinner?

[Deleted User] · July 2009

I say at least option B or C - if the bar is closed, chances are your guests will leave which will make the extension not worthwhile. All of the venues told us this as well.

blacksred · July 2009

I would make it a cash bar. Only because i wouldnt really want people getting "one for the road" and maybe just offer soda,juice and water but nothing alcoholic.

LaRositaMonita · July 2009

...What time is your ceremony/reception beginning? I would go with option B. There's really no need to add on that extra expense, and at the end of the night people won't (and shouldn't) be drinking as much.

ButtonsPepper · July 2009

I don't like the idea of randomly walking up to the bar at 11:05 and them charging me... where they hadn't all night.

delicatefew · July 2009

OK our cocktail hour is 6-7, dinner 7-8:30, entertainment 8:30-11:30. Yep pumpkinseed I wanted to cut a few things from dinner and my mom is panicking about rushing through dinner, so Kait made a great suggestion that I should have thought of already, just extending it another 30 minutes.Can I add another option?D: Limited bar from 11-11:30 (beer/wine only)?

samanthas8882 · July 2009

Ditto Buttons - no cash bar at the end. Look at the cost costs and see if it is worth it - some people start to leave as soon as you cut the cake so you will find not everyone is there till the end.

foolforfood · July 2009

I don't remember what we did at our wedding, but isn't last call announced about 1/2 hr before the night ends?

pumpkinseed12 · July 2009

I think just beer and wine could be a decent alternative...but I agree with buttons and sam...you have to have atleast something.You're absolutely sute you'll need 1.5 hours for dinner?

pumpkinseed12 · July 2009

*sure

Philly6*6*09 · July 2009

I think it would be okay if the bar closed @ 11. In my case, a lot of guests left after dinner.

jessicah628 · July 2009

1. No cash bar.2. There is no "last call" at a wedding. They serve until the end, unless it says otherwise in your contract.3. Beer & wine is not a good idea - think about if you're the person who's been drinking liquor all night and then you're forced to switch.I say suck it up and pay the extra. It probably won't be that bad because at the end of the night hopefully everyone is on the dance floor.

ButtonsPepper · July 2009

Can you just give a CC or something, and then after 11, switch it to cash bar, but not for the guests. It may be cheaper just to have them charge you for that half hour by person, rather then a lump sum based on how many people would be there. You could just say you will pay for everyone's "tab" so the guests have no idea... it's still open bar to them.

candkmc1021 · July 2009

i agree with jess. if i was at a wedding and all of a sudden the bar changed to cash bar, i would definately give the couple side-eye.

ValAndRyan · July 2009

I would definitely do C.

jessicah628 · July 2009

For once, I agree with Buttons. That was an option for us (cash bar that we paid for).

ButtonsPepper · July 2009

Jessh- I feel the love already! This could be the begining to many a SSEC!!

delicatefew · July 2009

Yep, there isn't a per-head fee so we'd be secretly paying for the cash bar, which I think is the route we'll go. And like others said, people might have started filtering out by then so it might not be an astronomical tab or anything. I hope. Thanks!

rumdrinx · July 2009

There's really no need to add on that extra expense, and at the end of the night people won't (and shouldn't) be drinking as much.Ok, sister mary margaret

candkmc1021 · July 2009

i will not sit here and act like i havent been one of those crazy drunk guests at a wedding who have snuck out a half full martini glass. open bar lovers unite!

jessica0602 · July 2009

i'm backing you up cand. at my last go to the bar, i usually double fist.

delicatefew · July 2009

Yeah both of our families are Irish, most of FI's friends are fishing buddies who are never without their beer, and my friends absolutely will drink their weight in free and wine booze at an open bar. I was at a wedding recently where the bar closed at 8, an hour before the reception ended at 9. There wasn't a "last call" announcement or anything. It was a disaster and people were really upset. I would have paid for a drink at that point than not had any more alcohol at all. Hence this line of questioning.

candkmc1021 · July 2009

delicate - i think you just answered your own question right there.

pumpkinseed12 · July 2009

Yes Cand, and delicate...? Let me tell you...if you think you're sneaking in my reception after dinner for a taste of the martini ice luge, but then I'm going to sneak in yours and have to pay for my drink?!?! Whew you'll be staring at the business end of a hissy fit!

delicatefew · July 2009

Perhaps you should sneak in with a flask in that case? lol.

jewels2730 · July 2009

Damn leaving work early! Rositamonita, I love you girl, but I don't get the "and at the end of the night people won't (and shouldn't) be drinking..." Why the H not? No wedding is as good as your own, so I drink to get through them all! What does it matter if you have a DD or a hotel? My people drank till 4am at my wedding!

LaRositaMonita · July 2009

Jewels, I said it with the intent that there will be people driving home. Guess I wasn't really thinking about the idea that you'd have lots of people staying over or using a DD...I'm not a particularly heavy drinker (neither are most of my family/friends), so clearly I'm a bit biased there and not being considerate of the fact that sometime people drink until 4 AM, I guess.

LaRositaMonita · July 2009

And actually, another option for delicate if she doesn't want to suck it up, though I guess this might be considered *GASP* tacky and awful, too: Close the bar for 1/2 hour during dinner or at the very beginning of the reception.

dani7248 · August 2009

I agree with Buttons. Just pay with your CC at the end for the 30 minutes or the venue will charge you for an open bar for 30min based on your final headcount #. Even though you are both irish, you will lose some of your guests before the end of the reception. Good luck!

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