So I'm a little peeved at my Fi and his Best Man....we are not super young and we have kids so the whole wild/crazy bach parties weren't going to happen. However, I was all for getting a night out with the girls and all that. Well, my fmil suggested maybe we could do our parties together-I was fine w/that....brought it up to my fi and asked him to talk to his bm and let him know that was the plan. So I plan this whole party thing-there are 35 people going and 90% of the people are my fi's friends(my friends pretty much suck but that could be a whole other post). I got an email from the Bm's wife saying that the Bm wants to get guys together for the weekend to go play golf w/my fiance-bm wants to know when my fi is available....seriously-wtf-first of all I dont think the wife should have emailed me...the bm should have talked to my fi and not act like I have to give my fi permission to do that. Second-it bothers me b/c I would have not done the group thing if I would have known that he was going to have a couple parties. I'm not about to have my bridesmaids try to plan one now-things are just too crazy. What would you say to your fiance? I want to tell him not to go, but I also feel like he should have nixed the idea right away....dont mean to sound babyish, but I am pretty certain that if my party involved going away for the weekend I wouldnt be able to swing it(responsibility of 4 children)....sorry for the winded posts-I'm probably just overreacting.....