Sorry so long!Well, I havn't posted in a couple of months becuase I was driving myself nuts thinking of wedding stuff when we still dont know when we're going to be able to actually get engaged and start planning a wedding. But alas, the family drama has intensified.Quick recap: BF & I together nearly 7 years now, both in our mid 20's. Bought a house together in January with the plan to get engaged shortly after, then married in 2010. But, as so many well laid plans do, they fell apart when he was laid off in March. We are now waiting until he finds a new job, which has proved to be difficult to say the least, in this economy. His parents have not been supportive of our decision to buy a house together without being married from the start, for religious reasons. They boycotted our housewarming party, and have refused to step foot in our house, or really aknowlegde that part of our relationship. We put up with it for 6 months. Last week, a family member passed away, and we spent all week travelling with them, planning services, and getting through the tough time. But they were still pretty hot & cold toward us. BF decided he had enough of their half hearted relationship with us and finally confronted them, invited them over for dinner one more time, and let it be known we could put all this behind us and move on, but we are still not getting married until the time is right for us, and we are not going to put up with their crap of accepting part of our relationship but not all anymore.Basically, they took his offer and rejected it. Unless we get married, they will not approve of our relationship. Clearly, we are not getting married to please them. We could just go to JOP they said: true, we could, but that is not how we want to get married. We want to get married surrounded by our friends and family, and we want to take the time to plan the wedding we want when he is not stressed out about not having a job. So, basically, both parties have made their choice: We chose to live together, happily, without being married yet. They chose to not accept this, therefore foregoing any relationship with their son. Maybe strangers with more distance on the issue would have more insight/advise/envouragement. I know there have got to be others in similar situations. We are religious too, but we don't necessarily see what we are doing as wrong. I cannot understand parents chosing to not have a relationship with their son because of this. Sorry so long. Had to vent.