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2nd marriage...HELP!!!

Takia01Takia01
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in Georgia-Atlanta
I recently got divorced from my first marriage in May but I've been with my new fiance for almost 2 years. My problem is that there are alot of my family members that dont know I recently divorced and on top of that I am planning to re-marry. I need some suggestions!!!When it's time to send save the dates and wedding invites , I don't know how to approach those family members that didn't know about the divorce. Do I tell them about the divorce or should I just go ahead and send the wedding invites as normal???Please help, I don't know what to do!!!Thanks,A confussed soon-2-b-bride
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Re: 2nd marriage...HELP!!!

  • tinysbridetobetinysbridetobe
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    edited December 2011
    Take it from me, you need to tell your family now.  My first husband and I married in October of 2005.  He got sick with cancer shortly after.  I closed my business and put my life on hold to help him get better.  Once he got better he went through this weird mid-life crisis and came home one day and told me he wanted a divorce..out of nowhere.  I was completely shocked.  I didn't tell any of my family for a long time because I was so ashamed and embarrassed, which wound up being a huge mistake.  Some of them got very upset with me for keeping it from them, some of them were understanding... I think it's in your best interest to tell them now so you can get it out of the way and focus on your new life with your soon to be new husband.  Just my opinion.
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  • kikiflykikifly
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with Tiny. Tell them - get it out of the way. The right way to approach them is to tell them before you send out the STD's. It's better that they find out verbally from you as opposed to finding out via a STD. Things will work out!
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  • Leah&Christian09Leah&Christian09 member
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    edited December 2011
    Tell close friends and family about the divorce.  This sort of info spreads pretty quickly. I would wait at least a year from the divorce before getting re-married.  Everyone is going to assume that you were cheating on your last husband anyway, and it's not about what people think, but if you want them to come to your wedding and respect your new relationship, some time between the two is healthy.
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  • Takia01Takia01
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you all for the wonderful  advice. I will tell them even though alot of them have figured it out already.
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