I was asked to be MOH for a destination wedding April, 2010 which is very exciting, this girl has been my best friend for the last 10 years and I am really happy for her, the problem is that I got engaged before her and have booked my wedding for June, 2010. My fiance and I are having a hard enough time saving up for our own wedding and honeymoon that we just can't afford to attend a desination wedding just two months before our own. We just can't afford it. She offered to cover my expenses and I could pay her back in the fall but I honestly don't want to go with out my man and I will be missing a week of work as I am taking my vacation time for our honeymoon. I feel so stuck in the middle, knowing we can't afford it! I know she is going to be mad, so how do I tell her?