I am having an issue with our ever growing guest list. Between my FI and his mother, I think half the Big Island is on it! We are paying for this wedding 100% on our own, and I know there is no way we can afford to feed all these people. Originally I wanted a very small, casual wedding...so, I have an idea but need some opinions...Originally I had planned on having a Welcome BBQ for the approx 30 OOT guests that are planning on coming. I am thinking of foregoing that (maybe substituing for a another outing) and having an After Wedding BBQ on Saturday and inviting all they extended family and friends (that FI never talks to BTW) to celebrate with us then. Is that rude? What do you girls think? And if I do decide to do it, what should I call it?