Help me resolve a debate

alarthame · August 2009

I finished my mock up for the seating chart and told FI it was finished. He went in and looked at it and told me that I couldn't put people who were not family at my mother's table. I told him it didn't matter and that we could have people who weren't family at that table. (The 2 people are two members of the wedding party's spouces, both of whom know my mother and my mother knows them. Plus my mom has insisted that she doesn't want to sit with her siblings.). What do you think? Is the table where your mother is seated reserved for family only?

meret28 · August 2009

My parents sat with family, but we have a huge family and that's who they wanted to sit with. I don't think there's any set rule. There are friends who are like family and I think would be perfectly appropriate seated with your mom.

krollet88 · August 2009

I think traditionally that yes it is reserved for family only. But I was planning on asking both of our parents who they would prefer at their tables. So I'd say if your mom's okay with it, then keep it that way.

whrldtravlr · August 2009

My mom's table won't be strictly family (especially since we don't have that many family members coming to the wedding). I think your idea is perfectly acceptable- especially if your mom is ok with it.

BryansBride28 · August 2009

My mom wants to sit with her friends... but I don't think she'd want to sit with my friends' spouses.

ms nobody · August 2009

if that's what's best for your guests and what your mother likes/wants i dont see how it could be a problem. being a good host(ess) means you get to break the "rules" and traditions when it's in the best interest of your guests.

leeshab1982 · August 2009

Completely agree with pp. If your mom is okay with it, then I don't see why it'd be a problem.

brusz1lm · August 2009

I say go for it! Your mom should be allowed to sit with her friends if she so chooses.Our parents will probably sit with family but that's because we have A LOT of family!

cinday · August 2009

I think that your mother should sit with who she wants to sit with and that there shouldn't be any rules!

*Rebecca & Chris* · August 2009

We had a table with my parents, Chris's parents, our niece and nephew (Chris's sister was at the head table), and the pastor and his wife. My mom didn't want to sit with her siblings or my dad's siblings either and would have gladly sat with friends instead. She can sit with whoever she wants to be by her.

festivegal2008 · August 2009

Traditionally I'd say yes. But not everyone goes by tradition. It's up to you. I have 3 tables reserved for immediate family (since FI has 7 siblings and 7 in laws plus 3 uncles/1 aunt). I have my parents seated with both my mom's and my dad's siblings & in laws, the priest and my godmother (an old family friend).

catstoy73 · August 2009

We had family seated all over the place. We had my parents, his Mom and close family friend, my Aunt & Uncle, my cousin & his wife. My cousin from Florida was supposed to be at the table but couldn't be there ao we ha 2 open seats. I do not see a problem with the way you have the seating chart. If you are comfortable with the way the seating chart is, then don't change it. Remember, this is your wedding and if your Mom and you are happy, then I would leave it.

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