Guest Attire...

baystateapple · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm sure your inlaws have seen a woman without a bra before now. My husband sees one daily.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
Zing!

futuremrsbruno · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : Well if she decides to remain braless, I hope she also decides to remain in her seat... I really just don't think anyone should be subjected to that on the dance floor.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

Why not? She'll be the martyr and envy of all the people coming in their formal suits and dresses who can't move as well because those things tend to be constricting.

aragx6 · June 2012

I think you have issues with your inlaws more than anything else. You seem very hung up on what they think of you and your family.

[Deleted User] · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Subjected to a woman not wearing a bra? Good grief! You're acting like their eyeballs are going to melt if they see the outline of a nip.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

This happened at my wedding (the nip slip, not the melting eyeballs). One of our guests changed at the reception, went braless, and gave quite a few people a show by constantly leaning over. We heard about it days and days after, and I think it's just funny. Doesn't reflect poorly on me, just her.

Khakis aren't that big a deal. And assuming they aren't ripped or worn or dirty, they look really nice.

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : You should definately put BRA REQUIRED on your invitations then, maybe a diagram of acceptable cleavage levels? Our wedding would be considered "black tie" and ~75% of our family/friends own tuxedos but I didn't want the other 25% to feel obligated to buy or rent a tuxedo just for us.
Posted by Amynutrition[/QUOTE]

<div>Totally</div>

StephBeanWed61502 · June 2012

I'm a little late to this party, but did it ever occur to you that she goes bra-less because of a medical issue? I have a co-worker who experiences severe nerve pain and therefore cannot wear bras. She dresses as best she can without them, but her lack of bra is always obvious. No one at work has died of nip-sightings yet, I promise.

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I think you have issues with your inlaws more than anything else. You seem very hung up on what they think of you and your family.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>Yup...I guess I do. </div><div>
</div><div>I shouldn't worry about it. My future MIL is already showing signs of dementia. She'll never remember the wedding.</div><div>
</div><div>But in all honesty, I want them to LIKE my family. They like me, I know that, but I am still not good enough for them because I'm not Jewish...and I certainly haven't let them push me around when it comes to some of the wedding stuff. Certain aspects, yes, but not all of them.</div>

misssunshine17 · June 2012

I'm going braless today in honor of your aunt. I'll let you know if anyones eyes melt.

Benny618 · June 2012

Buckley I think you should re-post this on the local boards. I just did a poll in my office (in NYC) and not one person thought it would be odd to dictate the dress code, everyone said they appreciate it. Customs and traditions are different all over the country, there are some things I've read on here that I could never imagine at my wedding just because it's not what I'm used to but that doesn't always mean it's wrong.

Bring on the attacks...

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm a little late to this party, but did it ever occur to you that she goes bra-less because of a medical issue? I have a co-worker who experiences severe nerve pain and therefore cannot wear bras. She dresses as best she can without them, but her lack of bra is always obvious. No one at work has died of nip-sightings yet, I promise.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

<div>To be perfectly honest, she actually does wear a bra. Its just very ill-fitting and she is very cheap and doesn't have someone to help her make the right choices as far as the bra goes. She is large chested and her boobs go down to her belly button with the bra on. I think one of my aunts is taking her shopping before the wedding though. </div><div>
</div><div>The reality is, at 60-whatever she is, its very sad that no one has already done this.</div>

specialk84 · June 2012

I would free-boob it every day if I could. Bras are awful.

futuremrsbruno · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm going braless today in honor of your aunt. I'll let you know if anyones eyes melt.
Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

That's actually not a bad idea, I feel like mine are sometimes binding because they need to hold in my big girls... and I to have to waitress tonight... braless could pay off in a big way!

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Buckley I think you should re-post this on the local boards. I just did a poll in my office (in NYC) and not one person thought it would be odd to dictate the dress code, everyone said they appreciate it. Customs and traditions are different all over the country, there are some things I've read on here that I could never imagine at my wedding just because it's not what I'm used to but that doesn't always mean it's wrong. Bring on the attacks...
Posted by Benny618[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm in upstate NY and I know I've seen it on invites. Plus, my MIL keep asking me if its going to be on there...

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misssunshine17 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : To be perfectly honest, she actually does wear a bra. Its just very ill-fitting and she is very cheap and doesn't have someone to help her make the right choices as far as the bra goes. She is large chested and her boobs go down to her belly button with the bra on. I think one of my aunts is taking her shopping before the wedding though. The reality is, at 60-whatever she is, its very sad that no one has already done this.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

<div>You've got to be kidding. You're still way up there on that high horse. Leave this poor woman alone. </div>

specialk84 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Buckley I think you should re-post this on the local boards. I just did a poll in my office (in NYC) and not one person thought it would be odd to dictate the dress code, everyone said they appreciate it. <strong> Customs and traditions are different all over the country</strong>, there are some things I've read on here that I could never imagine at my wedding just because it's not what I'm used to but that doesn't always mean it's wrong. Bring on the attacks...
Posted by Benny618[/QUOTE]

<div>There's a difference between customs/traditions and etiquette. A big one. Considering this is not the Customs and Traditions board, I think everyone but you and one other person has given good advice.</div>

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Well, you can't dictate how your IL's feel about your family either. I get wanting everyone to play nice and get along, but it's a big ole world of different people out there and so it's not always going to happen. You should focus on not caring so much about appearances. They really don't matter. Is your Aunt a nice person? That's what matters, not whether or not she prefers to go braless.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

<div>Nice? She isn't not nice...she's just not the most friendly and she likely won't even talk to anyone at the wedding but my dad's family.</div>

lbarr088 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : To be perfectly honest, she actually does wear a bra. Its just very ill-fitting and she is very cheap and doesn't have someone to help her make the right choices as far as the bra goes. She is large chested and her boobs go down to her belly button with the bra on. I think one of my aunts is taking her shopping before the wedding though. The reality is, at 60-whatever she is, its very sad that no one has already done this.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

<div>I think you should stop being so judgey and lighten up a bit. I get this whole situation is stressful but you need to take a step back and just breathe. At least she has a bra, who cares if it is ill-fitting, so what? There are plenty of people out there (inlcuding myself as of recently) who wear wrong sizes, type/style of bra for their chest. It's whatever. I get worked up about A LOT of things because I am OCD and anal but I can say that I have never gotten worked up over someone's undergarments.</div>

baystateapple · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : <strong>To be perfectly honest, she actually does wear a bra. </strong> Its just very ill-fitting and she is very cheap and doesn't have someone to help her make the right choices as far as the bra goes. She is large chested and her boobs go down to her belly button with the bra on. I think one of my aunts is taking her shopping before the wedding though. The reality is, at 60-whatever she is, its very sad that no one has already done this.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]
So you just made up an issue (her going bra-less) that was never going to happen, just because you judge her choice of bra?

It must be really uncomfortable up everyone else's asses. Seriously. Chill the everlovingfuck out and focus on things that really matter. Like nothing you've posted here.

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]You are WAY overly concerned about the price of things. How do you even know this much about your Aunt's undergarments? It's kind of weird.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I know a thing or two about being large-chested and I know if she was spending the right amount of time and money on her undergarments than her girls would sit somewhere at least close to where they belong.</div><div>
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Habs2Hart · June 2012

Apparently underwear was option at my wedding.

lbarr088 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : Nice? She isn't not nice...she's just not the most friendly and she likely won't even talk to anyone at the wedding but my dad's family.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

<div>Ok. So, I really think you need to think less about her and more about the other aspects of the wedding/family, etc. otherwise you are going to let this ruin everything. In the grand scheme of life, a nip show, a bra-less woman, or a woman with an ill-fitting bra really aren't that big of deals. </div>

mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : Well, aren't you pleasant and hopeful.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Just the truth...

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mbuckley85 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : It must be exhausting to spend so much time worrying so much about your Aunt's ta-ta's.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

<div>Yup</div>

lbarr088 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : I know a thing or two about being large-chested and I know if she was spending the right amount of time and money on her undergarments than her girls would sit somewhere at least close to where they belong.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

<div>WHY DOES THIS BOTHER YOU SO MUCH? I really don't get it. I don't side-eye the man I see everyday that dresses like one of the Super Smash brothers... for real, get over IT and yourself.</div>

Stackeye210 · June 2012

Just because you've seen things on an invitation before doesn't mean it's proper etiquette. If your affair is so classy you should follow etiquette. Period. That's what it boils down to. You can't dictate dress unless the venue dictates it for you.

I hope you aren't inviting kids, you might want to make them take etiquette lessons beforehand, those little boogers can ruin a classy affair and it'll make you look so awful.

This is how I imagine a perfect day

StephBeanWed61502 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : To be perfectly honest, <strong>she actually does wear a bra. Its just very ill-fitting and she is very cheap</strong> and doesn't have someone to help her make the right choices as far as the bra goes. She is large chested and her boobs go down to her belly button with the bra on. I think one of my aunts is taking her shopping before the wedding though. The reality is, at 60-whatever she is, its very sad that no one has already done this.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

Ummm, so why would you think that including "Black Tie Optional" would change her bra choice? She's just going to wear that "ill-fitting, cheap" bra of hers under a slightly-more-fancy dress, if she even bothers to pay attention to your stupid "optional " dress code at all. Basically, you're going to offend/confuse 97% of your guest list because you don't like your aunt's bra. Please tell me you understand why that sounds completely rifuckingdiculous.

amys325 · June 2012

My H wore khakis at our wedding! Blasphemy!!!!

We need a do-over!

Snippylynn · June 2012

This is... utterly bizarre. You are worried about schit that DOESN'T MATTER. Over a person who WON'T INTERACT with your in-laws. You CALLOUSLY declare that your FMIL is showing signs of DEMENTIA so who cares what happens!?

WTF is wrong with you?? Congratulations--

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_g2G9XZSAzPY/Sqnb6fcAQCI/AAAAAAAACC0/kqMmNJ0m4fA/s400/Godu2.jpg

Stackeye210 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest Attire... : Yup...I guess I do. <strong>I shouldn't worry about it. My future MIL is already showing signs of dementia.</strong> She'll never remember the wedding. But in all honesty, I want them to LIKE my family. They like me, I know that, but I am still not good enough for them because I'm not Jewish...and I certainly haven't let them push me around when it comes to some of the wedding stuff. Certain aspects, yes, but not all of them.
Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]

OH yea and FUUCK YOU.

baystateapple · June 2012

Buckley, seriously. Just stop. You're going to be an asshole to your aunt about her choice of bra, so just do it and go. You weren't looking for advice, you weren't asking what the right thing was to do. You want to be all up in your aunt's business about her attire, so go do it. Go look like an ass and offend your aunt and let your whole family know how it is so much more important to you to micromanage their underwear than to have them be comfortable on your wedding day.

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