IHO Kat, a poll

zsazsa-stl · June 2010

Think back ten years (CW, if you can't remember back that far, we understand. Details of preschool aren't all that interesting to us anyway):

- Where did you live and what were you doing?

- Were you in a relationship? Was it with "the one"?

- Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?

**O-Face** · June 2010

I was done with my freshman year of college, HS bf had broken up with me earlier that year. I started a relationship with my then-bff and was definitely in a weird spot. I was trying out new things, and not sure how to traverse that.

I think that my 10-years ago self would be relieved to know that things worked out for me. That even though I might have thought I would be less traditional, that the one thing I needed (stability) was actually what I would be getting.

Cant_wait! · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_iho-kat-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b681bacf-eb82-4dc1-bdb1-98992ae5c42fPost:ede07674-8c09-490b-830b-5b423215bd5f">IHO Kat, a poll</a>:
[QUOTE]Think back ten years (CW, if you can't remember back that far, we understand. Details of preschool aren't all that interesting to us anyway)
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]
somehow I knew this was coming.

I was 13 :p

Mrs.Thistletwat · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_iho-kat-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b681bacf-eb82-4dc1-bdb1-98992ae5c42fPost:ede07674-8c09-490b-830b-5b423215bd5f">IHO Kat, a poll</a>:
[QUOTE]Think back ten years (CW, if you can't remember back that far, we understand. Details of preschool aren't all that interesting to us anyway): -

Where did you live and what were you doing? - <strong>I was in CA going to school and working as a hostess/waitress. This was just before I got the job teaching preschool.</strong>

Were you in a relationship? Was it with "the one"? -<strong> Nope.</strong>

Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now? <strong>I think so. 10 years ago I was very lonely and sleeping around to try to fill that void. Now I'm married and pregnant. </strong>

Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]

katorigasuki · June 2010

I'll play since it's IHO me. ::blushes::

I was living in Michigain, Lansing to be specific and working at MSU.
I was JUST out of college. actually, according to my knotaversary, i was 2 days away from graduation.

i was with this total loser that i should have dumped MONTHS ago. recently honorably discharged from the marines, and couldn't function in normal society to save his life. he had the most adorable 3 year old boy, and i think i stayed for him more than anything.

dude proposed to me sometime that summer, and i told him i needed more time. should have ended it there. but for some reason i just kept on with it.

relationship wise, i now realize i wasn't happy.

professionally, i was just starting my career and loving it.

mr. kat was in my life, but only as a friend. we kept in touch through college, and finally hooked up a year after i finally got rid of the loser.

zsazsa-stl · June 2010

- I was headed into my graduate year of college, looking forward to some fun summer school classes, but I was also about to break an akle in three places that would force me to drop said fun summer classes and hang with the folks back home for the rest of the summer

- No. And I wasn't very happy about it as I recall.

- In some ways yes, in some ways no. Me of 10 years ago wouldn't be happy unless I was speaking 10 languages fluently and married to the ambassador to Monaco and raising our 5 brilliant and beautiful children. But I think she would be happy to see that we didn't turn out worse.

arbolita · June 2010

I was in my sophomore/junior year of high school and living in the boonies with my parents. My sister just graduated and was going off to college.

In the fall I was about to start my one and only high school relationship. I thought he might have been the one, but he wasn't, because he's gay.

My 15-year old self would be very judgy about who I am now.

Lauriac · June 2010

- Where did you live and what were you doing?
I lived at home with my parents in southern NY and was about to "graduate" middle school.

- Were you in a relationship? Was it with "the one"?
Hahaha. No. I wouldn't have a boyfriend for another 2 years.

- Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?
Me 10 years ago didn't think about much regarding the future. She would probably yell at me for catering to my parents so much. She'd also bedisappointed that I wasn't famous/dating a rock star/all tattooed up/wearing solely black.

loveshine1 · June 2010

I was 17, just graduated HS. I was living in NJ, working part time at Kohl's, and getting ready to move to SoFL for college in August.

I was casually dating a guy that turned out to be one of my best friends in the end. I was still nearly 4 years away from meeting H.

C&S1030 · June 2010

I'm right there with you CW. I was 14. A freshman in high school, working at the hair salon sweeping up hair.

NOLABridesmaid · June 2010

I just moved to Dallas about 6 months before and was in a relationship.

I was a 1st year teacher about to pull out my hair.

I thought that relationship was going to lead to marriage, so the me of 10 years ago would be surprised that I am still single.

zsazsa-stl · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_iho-kat-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:b681bacf-eb82-4dc1-bdb1-98992ae5c42fPost:2a70ebcb-7e92-40c4-a7d8-7564b9b92df2">Re: IHO Kat, a poll</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to IHO Kat, a poll : somehow I knew this was coming. I was 13 :p
Posted by Cant_wait![/QUOTE]

Yes, there is no way to avoid the teasing. But don't worry, you'll be dancing on our graves one day.

jojobrn · June 2010

I was 21, living in Bakersfield, CA (ladeda) and for the summer was on an internship out in Atlanta at the CDC, about to start the nursing program in the fall.

No relationship per se, I was chasing someone who ended up being a f-buddy here and there.

I my 21 yo self would be trey impressed with herself now. I've done things I set out to do and somehow in the middle of it all found and married my DH.

6fsn · June 2010

I was 24, remodeling my first home, working swing shift as front line supervisor. I was really proud of myself- the first woman and youngest person ever to be a front line supervisor. I wasn't in a relationship, but I was having fun dating.

The old me would be happy. This is where I wanted to be.

NOLABridesmaid · June 2010

Time really does fly after 21. I'm about to turn 37. Yes, 3---to the---7.

Where did the time go?

MinM · June 2010

10 years ago I was 22 living in Normal Heights, San Diego. I had just graduated from SDSU (in the Fall), preparing to move to Texas for graduate school while working at CPK and volunteering at a lab as a confederate. I was sleeping in and staying up late drinking and being in my 20's in San Diego - not a bad place to be.

I was not in a relationship. All the boys I knew at the time just wanted to hook up and I wasn't into that, or STDs.

10 years ago me would never believe in a million years that I would be where I am now. And 10 years ago me would not be happy living where I am living (and neither am I), she would be happy with what I am doign (love my work, hate the people), and I'd like to think she's be happy with who I am now - married, completed my education, no credit card debt, good wife, nice dog mommy, etc.

ReturnOfKuus · June 2010

I was in college and living with my parents, and I had just started working in my very first lab.

I had been dating Mr. Kuus for about 9 months.

I'd be semi-pleased, I think. I expected to be making more money, but I think I'd be pleasantly surprised by the person I became.

Butter Cookie · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_iho-kat-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b681bacf-eb82-4dc1-bdb1-98992ae5c42fPost:ede07674-8c09-490b-830b-5b423215bd5f">IHO Kat, a poll</a>:
[QUOTE]
- Where did you live and what were you doing? <strong> I was a junior in highschool, I lived with my mom</strong>
- Were you in a relationship? <strong> Yes</strong>
Was it with "the one"? <strong> I thought so at the time</strong>
- Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?<strong>No, the me of 10 years ago would have been confused over the loss of friends, where I live, and what I let myself go through. But the me of today is much stronger and happier than the me of 10 years ago</strong>
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]

Cant_wait! · June 2010

well. Now I know so I'll be sure to just do this:

From a safe distance.

Cant_wait! · June 2010

Also, even though she was 13, the me of ten years ago would be clutching her (imaginary) pearls at me today. Imaginary because the me of ten years ago wasn't allowed to wear jewelry.

MinM · June 2010

I am going to come back as a Mockingbird and haunt CW if she dances on my grave.

baconsmom · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_iho-kat-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b681bacf-eb82-4dc1-bdb1-98992ae5c42fPost:ede07674-8c09-490b-830b-5b423215bd5f">IHO Kat, a poll</a>:
[QUOTE]Think back ten years (CW, if you can't remember back that far, we understand. Details of preschool aren't all that interesting to us anyway): - Where did you live and what were you doing? - Were you in a relationship? Was it with "the one"? - Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]

<div>Lived in PHX, and I was at one throwaway job or another. Let's see, at 22 - in 2000 - I was at 7-11. </div><div>
</div><div>I had recently met the poet, IIRC, but I was still hung up on this other dude and slutting it up. Good times. I wouldn't meet H for another 2-3 years. </div><div>
</div><div>The me of 10 years ago would be amazed at where I am now. I assumed I'd never get married, never have kids, and never claw my way out of Arizona. </div>

baconsmom · June 2010

Oh - the me of 10 years ago would be astounded that I don't smoke.

Frankly, the way I've been craving a cig lately, so am I.

notamrs · June 2010

Where did you live and what were you doing?
Atlanta, in the first house I bought on my own, working as the assistant for the VP of Market Research for a real estate investment/holding firm

Were you in a relationship?
Yes

Was it with "the one"?
No - although it did last 10 years (we were 2 years into it 10 years ago and split at the beginning of 2008). Little did I know at the time that he was just months away from the first of 3 nervous breakdowns he would have while we were together. Good times.

Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?
For the most part, yes. I've grown a lot and learned a lot and feel like I'm in a pretty good place now. Of course, there are decisions I would have made differently in hindsight, but all in all, life's not too bad.

DG1 · June 2010

Where did you live and what were you doing?
Had just moved to Boston and was working for a startup. It was my first official job in my current career.

Were you in a relationship?
Yes

Was it with "the one"?
God no. It was toxic & stripped me of a lot of the good things about who I was. It's taken a looooong time to get that back, and I'm not sure that I fully have. Hate to say it was 3 wasted years with that guy, because I learned some things, but I'm not 100% sure the lessons were worth everything I lost because of it.

Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?
I think so. I've done really well in this career, which was the whole point of things at the time. I'm thrilled with my husband and kids, of course. I do hate where I live, though, and my career has suffered considerably because of it. I don't know if I would have fully appreciated the fact that those tradeoffs are basically required. 10 years ago (heck, 3 years ago), I really believed you could have both.

angel_lins · June 2010

<div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_iho-kat-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:b681bacf-eb82-4dc1-bdb1-98992ae5c42fPost:ede07674-8c09-490b-830b-5b423215bd5f">IHO Kat, a poll</a>:
[QUOTE]Think back ten years (CW, if you can't remember back that far, we understand. Details of preschool aren't all that interesting to us anyway): -

Where did you live and what were you doing?

<strong>June 2000 saw me just graduated from college and getting ready to start law school. I was still in NC, working at a restaurant for some summer money and hanging out with my girlfriends who were getting ready to be college seniors.
</strong>
- Were you in a relationship?

<strong>No, but I did hook up with one of the bartenders at work (awesome!) and this other guy that my roomate and I met at a bar. She liked him and I went for him anyway, and it ruined our friendship.
</strong>
Was it with "the one"? - <strong>No. </strong>Would the you of 10 years ago be happy with where/who/what you are now?<strong> I think me at 21 would look to me at 31 as a role model - I have a successful job where I'm respected, I own my own house, but mostly I've finally shed nearly all of the insecurities and baggage that led me to do some truly stupid sht in high school and college. I found the courage to admit that I was never going to be happy in my marriage and to end it, and the wisdom to learn from my mistakes. </strong>
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