Sorry in advance if this ends up being long... I tend to ramble when I'm frustrated...So we are coming into the home stretch now (8 days til the wedding) and things seemed to be all coming together finally. Two days ago though, FI got a text message from his best man that just said "having some anxiety, hoping you can find someone else to make a speech, call you later" and that was it. So we waited 2 days for this phone call to find out what was going on, and even called him and left him a message and finally got a phone call at 8:00 o'clock this morning. FI talked to him and he literally said he could do the speech, but would have a much better time if he didn't have to do it. So now FI is put in a miserable situation because, A) his best friend won't stand up for 30 seconds to make a toast to him, and
he feels like another groomsman will feel like 2nd string if we ask him to do it instead. I have offered to take care of it because I can tell that FI is really hurt by the whole thing, but I just want to get all of your opinions on the whole thing. My initial feeling is I'm angry for FI... its 8 days before his wedding, his groomsmen are supposed to be alleviating stress, not causing it! Regardless though, do you think its terrible to explain the situation to another groomsman (this groomsman, FI, and the best man are all together all the time) and see if he will do the toast instead? Thanks for the help and the chance to vent!!!!