Let me start by saying I know I'm not a mother, but I just need a little feedback. Background: I'm from PA, moved to SC to be with BF now FI. Wedding is July 2011 in PA, but I am planning from SC. FI and I got engaged in May, and decided to wait 2 years to get married to save $$. My parents came down to SC to meet the future in laws and the meeting seemed to go well. We went out to dinner and nobody yell at each other (which is really good!
)). I find out a few weeks later from my sister in law (bro's wife) that my mom is all put out because my FMIL and FFIL didn't call them when we got engaged. Apparently, its proper etiquette for them to make first contact (I've never heard of that, but meh...whatever). I let that go because its in the past. I also find out that mom feels FILs were rude and all that at the dinner because they wore flip flops to the restaurant (I wore flip flops!!), which is totally acceptable in Charleston. Fast forward a few months. FMIL was out at a store and started looking at dresses for the wedding (they were have a really good sale). She comes home and I was at their house and she has a really pretty dress, and she's really excited. I love the dress, and I'm happy for her, yes the wedding is 2 years out, but she's happy! I'm on the phone with mom a few days later and I tell her that FMIL found a dress and I hear silence. Well, apparently MOG is not supposed to buy a dress before MOB, which I've also never heard before. Sooo, I said mom, its ok, its not in the color you were thinking about, its pink (fuschia). Again, I hear silence, and mom says, "Oh, I was kind of thinking about pink." Last I had heard Mom was thinking about mocha-brownish color, so I told her, and she said, "Well, I was getting dressed this morning and put on a pink shirt and thought it was such a nice color on me." I love my mom, and my FMIL. They are just totally opposite people. My parents are very conservative, but my FILs are very relaxed and chill. I want my mom to be happy, but I would also like both sets of parents to get along. I apologize for this being so long, I just needed to vent. I would love a little feedback from you ladies. Am I wrong? Is FMIL wrong? is mom wrong? Thanks in advance!