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July 2010 Weddings

FSIL Rant

I need to vent for a minute. I'll give a quick backstory since some of you don't know it.Basically, FSIL put off asking me to be in the wedding for 3-4 months after she asked her other BM (I'll call her C) and also after telling C and FMIL that she wanted me in the wedding. So every time C asked me something about the wedding, I was just like well I don't know, I haven't been asked to be in the wedding yet. So finally FSIL asks me. Mind you, the wedding is this Oct and I got asked in June - AFTER she had already done dress shopping with FMIL and C. Ok fine. Then is was about 3 weeks later that she asked me to go try on BM dresses. Fine. C and I picked out our shoes the other weekend...FSIL hasn't asked about it at all.So yesterday I ask FI if he thinks that FSIL will want us to get our hair/makeup done. He says that FSIL has already arranged for someone to come to the house to do hair...ok fine...but he then goes on to say that she has apparently already asked ALL of the females in the family if they want to get their hair done as well. So, I'm annoyed and I text C and ask her if anything was mentioned to her about hair/makeup. She says oh yea, FSIL called last week to ask her. WTF??!?! I saw FSIL last weekend and yesterday and she has never ONCE said anything to me about it. I mean seriously. FSIL was not obligated to have me in her wedding and I could have cared less about it. But, she asked me - at least act like you want me in it. I'm so over even bothering to try. If she's not going to put any effort into it - why should I? Its her wedding day that is going to be messed up when I don't know when to show up, or decide to do my own hair/makeup.UGH!! I'm so annoyed about it. I just had to vent.
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  • Thats kinda weird. Its like you said, its no skin off your back that she is being so lax with you...its her wedding day thats going to be effected. Just go with the flow, nobody can blame you if she doesn't tell you what you're supposed to be doing. I don't know if you have a good or bad relationship with her, but if its good then don't let this screw it up :)
  • aw Lauren, I'm sorry that sucks! But like you said, it's her day she's messing up...if she doesn't like it later, she can't complain!
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  • I remember you previous post about. How is your relationship with her? Do you guy hang out ? Do you have any idea why she is acting this way with you?
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  • We aren't exactly the best of friends...I'd say our relationship is cordial. We don't hang out on our own or anything but it's not as if we hate each other. Personally, I'm not a huge fan, but whatever.
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  • that's sucky..maybe you should mention something to her.. but i agree with every one else.. no sweat off your back.. just remember how you feel so you make sure not to do it to your bm... not that I really think you would..but you get what I'm saying.. hopefully things get better.. you want this experience to be fun : )
  • Personally, I think maybe she only asked you because she felt obligated to...honestly that's why I asked my one FSIL I have 2, and the younger one I really like but the older one is frankly kind of nasty. She always has a b*tchy attitude and she treats both my fiance and me like we're beneath her, but she's his sister and I couldn't ask one and not ask the other because FMIL and I have enough drama in the past and I do not want to start more family problems when I'm about to marry the man I love. Regardless as to why she asked you though, she asked you and she should realize you didn't ask her to ask you, she made that choice and she shouldn't treat you like you inserted yourself into her wedding though I do think you should call her and ask her about the hair and makeup because maybe she just expects you to hear things through your fi and she thinks as long as she or her mom tell him that you'll know what's going on.[url=http://<a href="http://www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers" rel='nofollow'>www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers</a>][img]<a href="http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt322cb.aspx" rel='nofollow'>http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt322cb.aspx</a>[/img][/url]
  • Maybe she felt obligated - who knows. But I don't think so...she's not my FI's sister...she's my FI's brother's wife/fiance. I don't know. I'm staying out of it. Not my problem. They haven't even talked to FI about when to try on tuxes...and the wedding is in 5 weeks. But don't worry - they sent out the invitations 4 months in advance! Clearly they don't know about wedding ettiquette or even WHEN things should be happening! Just annoying. Ok - I'm done venting! Thanks for listening ladies!!
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  • Don't worry about it. You're right, if you don't show up on time/in the right place, it will be her own fault. This happened to me when I was in my cousins wedding this June. Finally I just said screw it. I did my own hair and makeup and just showed up when I felt like it and hoped for the best. It worked out fine and there was nothing she could say about it. Don't stress!
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