BMs have asked me for suggestions for a shower. I live three hours from my family and groom's family is out of state. My family will likely have a mostly family shower back home later in the fall. But we struggled with what to do with local friends and colleagues. A number of people we know locally are probably not going to make it on the invite list as I have a lot of family to invite. BMs are thinking of doing a "post wedding shower" to share wedding & honeymood photos. I struggle with the whole "if they are not going to the wedding, you don't invite them to a shower" etiquette issue. Any ideas?Another issue is a shower at work. I really don't want one. I'm in senior management and I don't want employees to feel obligated. I also find the mass email shower invites for co-workers you don't know personally a bit gift grabby and somewhat rude if they are not going to be invited to the wedding. Any thoughts on declining the work shower?