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Just not getting it?

LovesPink927LovesPink927 member
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Does anyone have families or a FI who just doesn't understand what goes in to planning a wedding now-a-days?  FI just thinks things get done on their own and my family (who were all married in the 70's) think that it's still the way you plan a wedding!
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  • stebbe81stebbe81
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    edited December 2011
    Yep!  My dad was shocked to see how much a wedding involves now.
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  • LISA RLISA R
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    edited December 2011
    Yup everyone seems to think that thhe wedding shouldn't be costing us more than $5000, ie my mum
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  • dexnmavdexnmav
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    edited December 2011
    Ok my father has offered me NOTHING. My mom's boyfriend has offered to even buy my dress. (yes I'm pissed). FI told me to get flowers from Kroger and ice cream cakes from Diary Queen. He also thinks khakis and a button down shirt is to much to ask his brother to "dress up". And my MOH thinks she has all executive power and gets mad when I don't want what she wants. VENT! my apologies.
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  • whrldtravlrwhrldtravlr member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh yeah! FI and family refuse to give me a guest list. Well, not outright but no one is in any rush after several months of begging and pleading. I think they don't realize that although the wedding is quite aways away, we DO have to have rough estimates of headcounts for planning!!! I swear, if they don't give me a finalized list by the date I gave them, 12/20/09, I'm just not inviting anyone on their side. Too bad, so sad.
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  • BryansBride28BryansBride28
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    edited December 2011
    My dad said, "Flowers? What do you need flowers for?" and "You don't need a photographer, everyone has digital cameras these days." No joke.
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  • LovesPink927LovesPink927 member
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    edited December 2011
    If I hear "stop stressing, it will all work out" one more time, I swear!! I'm stressing because none of you are helping me, just giving me more work to figure out! ie, FI's dad who invited 5 additional people yesterday on the day rsvp's were due.  Thanks buddy!!
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  • mink492mink492 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yep. I have an aunt that was pissy that invites went out 2 months ahead of time (she thinks 1 month is more than enough). FI has had SEVERAL calls, esp this week, of people calling him asking why they weren't invited. Who does that?

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  • LovesPink927LovesPink927 member
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    edited December 2011
    I can't believe they are calling your FI mink!  You're right, who does that?!?
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  • thecatsfancythecatsfancy
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    edited December 2011
    My mom keeps calling me a Bridezilla...which I am far from, but I will certainly turn into if she doesn't cut it out!!  I haven't made a single request of anyone.  I've done 99.9% of it myself with the exception of bridal shower related items.  How in the heck does that make me a Bridezilla???  I even bought shoes for my SIL so she didn't have to go look for some.  Ugh.
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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI doesn't understand why we're spending so much money, of course he has also suggested serving $5 pizzas for dinner. But he's always been super cheap so I'm not surprised.
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  • scarywife1026scarywife1026
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    edited December 2011
    My DH originally suggested that his friend photograph our wedding. Um...NO!!!! He also insisted on DIY our wedding video, and delegating the GM to change tapes in all of the cameras he had set up. Guess what? DH didn't delegate, GM forgot about the cameras, and we don't have our 1st dance on video. DH was crushed.
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  • ms nobodyms nobody member
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    edited December 2011
    thecatsfancy: are you bridezilla because you don't do exactly what your mother wants you to do/thinks you should do? that's why i'm bridezilla. lol. my mom just isnt getting it when i tell her FMIL and she are equals and FMIL shouln't be treated like a second class citizen and have to wait for her to decide what kind of dress she's wearing, etc. my mom also isn't getting that no matter how much money they want to give us to pay for the wedding, her name isn't going on the invitation. my mom also wanted me to have a premium bar AND serve the prime rib, and if we didnt have those things then WHY BOTHER?!?! (luckily i talked her down from this- it would've been about $15 more expensive PP.)
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  • niprsnkityniprsnkity member
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    edited December 2011
    luckily, my parents are fabulous. they have been so supportive and great. HOWEVER, my FMIL(who just helped her own daughter plan an insanely lavish wedding just a year ago) is upset because she doesn't play a large enough part in the planning process. (seriously. you live 5 hours away, you are not paying a single cent and you told the FI that I was planning too far in advance. right, because a year is waaaay too soon to start planning a wedding...she thinks that since her and her daughter did it in 8 months I should be able to. whatever) woah, holy moly, that was a vent and i didn't even realize i needed it!
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