And I'm back in the groove of school I will FOR SURE be back and posting. I've been lurking and posting occasionally, but I wanna be back for good!
I'm also here to vent so I'm really sorry that this is long.
I was having a lot of roommate problems, but I think they are done. Not because they got sorted out but because the friendship is seemingly unfortunately over. It's really sad but ineviteable. K (roommate) and I have been on a rocky road for a few months now, but have been trying to work things out because we are living together (with two other girls also). We were all excited because it was said that "it would be like a slumber party everynight", we would get to see each other more even with our busy schedules, and we had been looking forward to this for soooooo long (we've been friends for 7 years). When we finally do move in, she shacks up at her BF's house and comes home to only do laundry and shower but would send out text messages asking why were there dishes in the sink, no room in the fridge for her stuff, clothes in the dryer when no one was home and just general BLAH and on the off chance she was home in the evening when we were all home, K would sit in her room with the door closed. Every. Single. Time. As in, the three of us would be sitting in the living room eating dinner and watching a movie and she would walk through the front door and immediately go to her room without saying hello.
The three of us (other roommates) would ask K when she would be home, if she would be home, if she wanted to hang out, why was she always in her room, etc. and she got tired of it.
Keep in mind the questions above were the only things we've talked to her about since we moved in, and outside of those questions and her text messages there is no contact.
So yesterday I get this text message from her BF:
"You and K's other godawful roommates are f****** c****. Do yall realize she cries on almost a nightly basis because of the petty and cruel s*** yall pull every f****** day? Do yall feel f****** good about yourselves making someone feel so small and unliked. Especially you. (and then he goes on about some stuff unrelated to K, but involving me and him and a group of friends we once shared) I dont give a f*** that you thought you were too good for us and no one misses you. But K, someone who always counted on your. U tossed her out like yesterdays trash. She cant go stay at her own apartment for fear of being singled out and ridiculed by the three of yall. So now she is looking for a new place to live because she can' stand it there. Well f****** done. I hope you feel good about that."
I was like WOAH. And BF was with me when I got it and he was pissed and ended up talking to him. My BF pretty much said that he needs to stay out of whats going on between us because he's hearing half of it. BF told him that it's not helping her how to learn to deal with problems and relationships and whatever. And straight up told him if he calls me a c*** or any bad name again he's getting his ass beat.
I guess I'm just at a loss because I don't know where she got being ridudculed and how we were cruel, unless asking if shes staying here or at her BF's is cruel and wanting her to hang out with us is ridicule. I mean, I don't know how our relationship can get "fixed" when everything is so broken, and not to mention I'm not and won't be on good terms with her BF. I mean, thats a pretty big sign that it's over, but now I'm not sure where it all goes or if I should talk to her (which I haven't done since I got the text yesterday). Blah. Sorry about how long it was. Any insight is appreciated and advice is more than welcome. Also a slap in the face if I've done something wrong.